Horatio
Well-known member
Hey guys,
The purpose of this post isnt to offend anyone here but to start a conversation on a topic that I have been in denial about for some time and there may be others out there who struggle with the same thing.
Towards the end of my time at school when I was being bullied a lot I started putting on weight and never stopped. I now find myself very overweight and in my mind I am extremely ugly. My doctor has told me basically that it will be VERY difficult for my SP to improve unless I lose weight first. He said that although people say that "looks dont matter" "its whats on the inside that counts" etc, that the TRUTH is that looks DO matter, and if you are overweight then people WILL look down on you and people WILL treat you like your unnacceptable, even if they dont realise they are doing it.
All I know is that I get run down about my looks a lot. Wether its the jerks on the street laughing at me or the girl at church who told me that God was telling her to tell me that I need to do something about my looks or I would never get a wife. Comments like that are a huge setback to my self esteem so to me although the task of losing weight seems impossible I aknowledge that losing weight would be a good first step towards giving my social phobia a one way ticket to Hades.
So my questions to all of you are as follows...
A: Are you overweight?
B: Do you think that being overweight makes your SP worse?
C: Do you think that being overweight caused your SP in the first place or maybe that the SP caused you to become overweight?
D: Do you think looks matter?
I understand that for others of you out there like me, this is a sensitive topic. Im sorry if I have in anyway upset you by bringing it up.
The purpose of this post isnt to offend anyone here but to start a conversation on a topic that I have been in denial about for some time and there may be others out there who struggle with the same thing.
Towards the end of my time at school when I was being bullied a lot I started putting on weight and never stopped. I now find myself very overweight and in my mind I am extremely ugly. My doctor has told me basically that it will be VERY difficult for my SP to improve unless I lose weight first. He said that although people say that "looks dont matter" "its whats on the inside that counts" etc, that the TRUTH is that looks DO matter, and if you are overweight then people WILL look down on you and people WILL treat you like your unnacceptable, even if they dont realise they are doing it.
All I know is that I get run down about my looks a lot. Wether its the jerks on the street laughing at me or the girl at church who told me that God was telling her to tell me that I need to do something about my looks or I would never get a wife. Comments like that are a huge setback to my self esteem so to me although the task of losing weight seems impossible I aknowledge that losing weight would be a good first step towards giving my social phobia a one way ticket to Hades.
So my questions to all of you are as follows...
A: Are you overweight?
B: Do you think that being overweight makes your SP worse?
C: Do you think that being overweight caused your SP in the first place or maybe that the SP caused you to become overweight?
D: Do you think looks matter?
I understand that for others of you out there like me, this is a sensitive topic. Im sorry if I have in anyway upset you by bringing it up.