mart22n
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Ok, so I'm about to do a scary thing. The idea about it has been on my mind for a few weeks, or even longer: to "break the ice" with a colleague who I have to talk to anyway on an almost daily basis. The point is I feel uncomfortable when talking to him, I'm afraid he thinks I'm weird or blahblah
So the plan is to relieve the related stress inside of me: I'm planning to tell him sincerely that "You know what? I get a bit anxious when I talk to you, because I kind of am afraid what you're thinking of me. Just wanted to let it out, now I'm much more relaxed"
Saying this sounds a bit of a nightmare to me, since 1) "he would think I'm strange, or miserable" 2) In the future he might always think "Ah, that's the weird guy, ok, I'm trying to avoid him" 3) He might tell his friends/colleagues about my sayings
Good things: 1) I'm more stress free at work so I can concentrate better; 2) I'm more careless when I talk to him in the future - so I get anxious. So f*in what? 3) Since I will overcome a fear of mine, life gets a little bit easier and better; 4) if I don't tell him that, I get more depressed about all that topic.
So, more pros than cons. Let's see how it goes tomorrow people!!
So the plan is to relieve the related stress inside of me: I'm planning to tell him sincerely that "You know what? I get a bit anxious when I talk to you, because I kind of am afraid what you're thinking of me. Just wanted to let it out, now I'm much more relaxed"
Saying this sounds a bit of a nightmare to me, since 1) "he would think I'm strange, or miserable" 2) In the future he might always think "Ah, that's the weird guy, ok, I'm trying to avoid him" 3) He might tell his friends/colleagues about my sayings
Good things: 1) I'm more stress free at work so I can concentrate better; 2) I'm more careless when I talk to him in the future - so I get anxious. So f*in what? 3) Since I will overcome a fear of mine, life gets a little bit easier and better; 4) if I don't tell him that, I get more depressed about all that topic.
So, more pros than cons. Let's see how it goes tomorrow people!!