one of my coworkers ignores me

LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Even if it's just me and him, he won't even say hi back. I don't like working with him at all. He talks to other coworkers though. He's only 20 so maybe that's why. It's just like he won't even look at me like i'm invisible. I don't say hi anymore because it's pointless. I'm not even trying to start a conversation here lol. Has anyone else experianced this?
 
mixedupgirl

mixedupgirl

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Well I've been on the opposite end. I acted like someone was invisible at work because I found them intimidating....
 
Lamb

Lamb

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Hmm.. the few times anything like that has occurred with me was because of an actual fallout with another co-worker.

Do you have any idea as to why he may be silent around you? Perhaps he is intimidated, or finds you attractive.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Lamb said:
Hmm.. the few times anything like that has occurred with me was because of an actual fallout with another co-worker.

Do you have any idea as to why he may be silent around you? Perhaps he is intimidated, or finds you attractive.
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i'm quiet so maybe that's why? still it's nice to get eye contact once in awhile. i don't think i'm very attractive at work cuz i'm usually stressed :(
 
Lamb

Lamb

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LazyHermitCrab said:
i'm quiet so maybe that's why? still it's nice to get eye contact once in awhile. i don't think i'm very attractive at work cuz i'm usually stressed :(
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Maybe he steers clear because he gets the impression you're stressed alot? Just throwing out possibilities. Perhaps you should just ask him. The worst that could happen is he'll continue not talking to you.
 
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ImNotMyIllness

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I think he might like you. Not showing a girl interest, will definitely GET HER INTEREST (good or bad). Us guys sometimes subconsciously do this.
 
mixedupgirl

mixedupgirl

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LazyHermitCrab said:
so if that person said hi you didn't say anything but didn't dislike them really? what was itimidating about this person?
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Well I don't remember her saying hi and if she had I would've given her a half smile and maybe said hi back.....when she first started workin in my office she was really chatty with everyone and as I like or liked to keep myself to myself I tried to steer clear of her....I noticed when I was havin conversations with coworkers in the office she would always stare at me and when ever I walked past her and she was sat at her desk she would look up and smile at me but I would ignore her....I hoped she'd get the message but she just continued to do it all the time...i felt like she was really intrusive...

I was just nervous that she might start trying to converse with me and at the time I was goin through a really self conscious period so wanted to avoid all social contact.....so overall I ignored her when she looked at me not when she spoke to me....

Personally at this time in my life if I said hi to someone on more then one occasion and they blanked me but not other people I would ask politely if they had a problem with me.
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

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Yes this happens to me quite a lot - seriously - it happens all the time - people just make judgements about me and dismiss me almost immediately as not being worthwhile.

I feel awkward when I am nervous and give off a bad impression - at least that is what I think. There is a few people at my job who wont even look at me, and they never have the entire time I have been there.

One girl I don't even bother with at all because all the times I have tried to initiate conversation with her she just shrugs off my presence. It's very rude.

But ultimately it comes down to them and their decision of how they see you. If someone isn't going to bother with you for whatever reason, it falls on them not you. It's frustrating and it hurts your feelings a bit (or at least it does mine, because if they took the time to know me, they would realize I am not all that bad) but you can only do so much when it comes to others reactions to you.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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KiaKaha said:
Yes this happens to me quite a lot - seriously - it happens all the time - people just make judgements about me and dismiss me almost immediately as not being worthwhile.

I feel awkward when I am nervous and give off a bad impression - at least that is what I think. There is a few people at my job who wont even look at me, and they never have the entire time I have been there.

One girl I don't even bother with at all because all the times I have tried to initiate conversation with her she just shrugs off my presence. It's very rude.

But ultimately it comes down to them and their decision of how they see you. If someone isn't going to bother with you for whatever reason, it falls on them not you. It's frustrating and it hurts your feelings a bit (or at least it does mine, because if they took the time to know me, they would realize I am not all that bad) but you can only do so much when it comes to others reactions to you.
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yeah i mean if that person doesn't take the time to actually know you then you should never feel bad if they automatically dislike you. whatever! :<
 
teandtoast

teandtoast

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most people at my work won't talk to me as like kiakaha above, Im shy, nervous awkward and give off a bad impression and people think Im arrogant aswell.
So if just 1 person doesnt wana talk to you or whatever dont worry about it, its only 1 person and I wouldnt bother with the effort of it.
At least it's not everyone.
 
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