Does anyone else feel they have little to talk about because they've had somewhat limited experiences in life?
I dont usually enjoy socialising much but i do feel the need to have good relations in the working environment. It creates a better impression to bosses and makes you more likable and less likely to get fired. Its also not nice when your labeled as the wierd quiet person and everyone avoids going to you for help or acts annoyed when you go to them.
Ive had a number of jobs in the past where i have made a good impression in the first week but after that its all gone down hill. I have experiences from my uni days where i was almost sa free and i went out nearly everynight and got up to lotsa drunken antics. It was a good fun time of my life that i can talk about loads.
However after uni i got depressed and have spent much of the last two years unemployed and doing next to nothing. I have lost nearly all my friends and so i hardly go out. Ive spent a lot of time just on my own on my computer (a lot of the time by choice) and thats not really something you can tell people about.
I have no experiences to talk about to keep relationships going past the first week of a new job and so everyone else with their own set of friends talk about what they did at the weekend or talk about a lifetime of experiences and after awhile i just start to listen more and more and contribute less and less.
I do think that ive fallen into a bad trap that im now going to try to fix. I have always had an interest in the world, history, geography and politics but instead of spending my freetime learning these things i have just watched tv or played videogames as an escape from reality. Playing games is bad because you shut down your brain and kinda zone out.
Im going to from now on try and watch more news programmes and read more factual books because i do have an interest in them im just very lazy. Then hopefully i will have more things to talk about when starting new jobs and meeting new people and maybe then make a few new workmates and have an easier time.
I dont usually enjoy socialising much but i do feel the need to have good relations in the working environment. It creates a better impression to bosses and makes you more likable and less likely to get fired. Its also not nice when your labeled as the wierd quiet person and everyone avoids going to you for help or acts annoyed when you go to them.
Ive had a number of jobs in the past where i have made a good impression in the first week but after that its all gone down hill. I have experiences from my uni days where i was almost sa free and i went out nearly everynight and got up to lotsa drunken antics. It was a good fun time of my life that i can talk about loads.
However after uni i got depressed and have spent much of the last two years unemployed and doing next to nothing. I have lost nearly all my friends and so i hardly go out. Ive spent a lot of time just on my own on my computer (a lot of the time by choice) and thats not really something you can tell people about.
I have no experiences to talk about to keep relationships going past the first week of a new job and so everyone else with their own set of friends talk about what they did at the weekend or talk about a lifetime of experiences and after awhile i just start to listen more and more and contribute less and less.
I do think that ive fallen into a bad trap that im now going to try to fix. I have always had an interest in the world, history, geography and politics but instead of spending my freetime learning these things i have just watched tv or played videogames as an escape from reality. Playing games is bad because you shut down your brain and kinda zone out.
Im going to from now on try and watch more news programmes and read more factual books because i do have an interest in them im just very lazy. Then hopefully i will have more things to talk about when starting new jobs and meeting new people and maybe then make a few new workmates and have an easier time.
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