froghat
Well-known member
I'm not sure how I'm ever gonna find a girlfriend, if I can't ever feel confident or comfortable enough to look someone in the eyes and just act natural instead of my usual overthinking, worrying, and houghts of looking odd. Yes, I'm shy and it's hard to get to know new people, but my main problem is feeling awkward and disconnected from people when I finally get to know someone. I could never sit down with someone at a table and have a 1 on 1 conversation with someone without feeling distant and uncomfortable. I'm not sure what came first, confidence problems or the eye contact problem. Either way, it feels like I'm trapped in hell. Distant from everyone. I can't even do this with my parents or sisters. It's beyond frustrating and I don't know what to do. I've tried to forced myself to look into people eyes, but it feels unnatural and just makes things more awkward. Do you think any therapist could help me with this problem? My last therapist sucked, so now I'm worried about spending big moola on another one. The CBT didn't seem to work. Do you guys have any suggestions or people who I should see for this? thanks