Hm, i m completely opposite. All my life i was DESPERATELY trying to fit in, to have a great social network , there was a time a had managed to make 50-100 acquitances( I called them friends) who seemed to enjoy my humour and company. But when i wasnt in such a talkish mood they vanished. I really thought i had friends.
I did that since it seemed completely unbearable to me that i would be so alone like these days. As a young kid i played with anyone, with gypsies, i didnt make any difference on status of people neither was judgmental. But it seems that i m different somehow , i really feel like a total outcast, there is still my old persona in me, but now i m full of presumptions, and i m a bit judgmental, i like to make quick conclusions on people, so i can prove that my lonely state was inevitable.
I m especially disappointed with a girls part. When i was 13 or 14 i was silly that i imagined to get know good 40 girlies in my life , and thatshow to find my soulmate. By getting know good i didnt think anything sexual, i just wanted to meet them. Somehow it didnt work out,i couldnt get close to any , like my personality is so doomed with this insecurity and shyness.
So, thatswhy i become avoidant, there is a litle vivid part of me who wants to hang on with some nice person , but i m not sure that i would now even recognize such if exists.