Yiddo81
Member
Hi,
I am new to this site and actually very new to the term 'social phobia' after only really learning about it tonight. I think I have a mild case of social phobia and would like some advice on how best I can deal with it.
I've always been a fairly shy person but with a fair bit of confidence in that I could hold a chat with a person or group without thinking twice about it. However, I would say in the last year I have turned into this nervous wreck for no apparent reason. I'm a 25 year old male by the way.
I work in a customer facing position where I have people visit my desk on a regular occasion and I often get red faced and feel myself getting embarrassed for no reason. I get horribly anxious when it comes to group interaction such as team meetings and keep the focus on me down to a complete minimum as I don’t like it when the spotlight is on me.
It's gradually got worse and worse to the point where I feel nervous about family meals incase anyone asks me a question where everyone might look at me and see me go all red faced. This really upsets me inside because I can’t even hold a normal conversation with the people that I love without the excruciating worry of getting embarrassed. It plays on my mind all the time about anything and I often try to get out of invitations to things that I would previously have attended just because I worry about friends and family seeing me as a nervous wreck.
The strange thing is that I am very happily married, have a great house which I own, a loving family and a good job yet this phobia bites in to me like you wouldn’t believe. I am the best man at a wedding this summer and the thought of me standing up to make a speech in front of loads of people petrifies me.
I would really appreciate any advice on how best to beat this. I haven’t been to a doctor but to be honest don’t fancy going to see one or a shrink or anything like that. Any medication, media, or ideas that you have would really help me.
Many Thanks
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I am new to this site and actually very new to the term 'social phobia' after only really learning about it tonight. I think I have a mild case of social phobia and would like some advice on how best I can deal with it.
I've always been a fairly shy person but with a fair bit of confidence in that I could hold a chat with a person or group without thinking twice about it. However, I would say in the last year I have turned into this nervous wreck for no apparent reason. I'm a 25 year old male by the way.
I work in a customer facing position where I have people visit my desk on a regular occasion and I often get red faced and feel myself getting embarrassed for no reason. I get horribly anxious when it comes to group interaction such as team meetings and keep the focus on me down to a complete minimum as I don’t like it when the spotlight is on me.
It's gradually got worse and worse to the point where I feel nervous about family meals incase anyone asks me a question where everyone might look at me and see me go all red faced. This really upsets me inside because I can’t even hold a normal conversation with the people that I love without the excruciating worry of getting embarrassed. It plays on my mind all the time about anything and I often try to get out of invitations to things that I would previously have attended just because I worry about friends and family seeing me as a nervous wreck.
The strange thing is that I am very happily married, have a great house which I own, a loving family and a good job yet this phobia bites in to me like you wouldn’t believe. I am the best man at a wedding this summer and the thought of me standing up to make a speech in front of loads of people petrifies me.
I would really appreciate any advice on how best to beat this. I haven’t been to a doctor but to be honest don’t fancy going to see one or a shrink or anything like that. Any medication, media, or ideas that you have would really help me.
Many Thanks
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