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nutsaboutu

nutsaboutu

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Hi. I just learned about social anxiety this year and i figured i've had it for 10 years now, i'm 22(female). I've gotten over some fears including making eye contact and speaking on the phone in front of people. These I have gotten over through logic and reasoning but I still have issues about carrying on a conversation or meeting new people... i tend to drill them with questions which gets annoying even for me.

I don't let people get close to me because i just don't know how and so i have no close friends. I don't have much of an interest in anything for too long and therefore i know a little about some things. I don't feel I have much of a personality... i may come off as boring to people and i guess its my lack of self expression.

Also when I'm on IM and i try to get a convo going ppl don't really seem interested and i don't know if its me or they may just be busy, who knows.

Anyway, I'm just listing all the things I need to work on here so i can set some goals and maybe get some support from you all. I really want to get over this phobia and willing to put myself in awkward situations in order to so. The field I am in demands that i communicate with people often and i'm delaying looking for a job... when i start typing i tend to say too much so this is where i end it.

p.s. looking forward to learning and growing on this site
 
DaDahhhhDaDaDa

DaDahhhhDaDaDa

Active member
Hi and welcome,
I'm pretty new here myself and only recently discovered that I had SA (though I suspected it for some time). Seems you have the same problems as I do, though where you ask questions I just tend to let the other person do the talking and keep my opinions to myself.

I see myself as having very little personality as well, and that really sucks because I honestly, for once, want to have a normal and comfortable conversation with new people.

Hell, I'm more than willing to put myself in awkward situations, I'm 17 and have missed way too much of what "normal" teenagers do - don't want this phoebia forever. :cry:

Anyway, good luck to you then, hopefully the forum will help you reach your goals and overcome the damm annoyance that is SA.
 
Joey86

Joey86

Well-known member
Welcome aboard Nutsaboutu. I think you'll find a lot of people here will be familiar with your experiences.
 
eliz88

eliz88

Member
i also suffered from social phobia since i was 14..had heaps of trouble just making conversation because of all the self-consciousness, nervousness, feeling of inferiority etc. i felt like it would be impossible for me to ever have close friends let alone a boyfriend because i just couldn't be myslef around people...i felt like i had no personality around other people too.the questions thing lol that was one of my strategies too! to get the focus off my and my awkwardness i'd just ask the other person about them all the time, it made for pretty one way conversations and wasn't fun for me...
ive found something that has helped heaps though, by talking about all this to my GP and getting a prescription for and SSRI, my symptoms have improved. it took 3 months to feel the affects properly, though there were some immediate benefits such as a decrease in the amount of crying 'break-downs' id have when home alone..
SSRIs aren't addictive and they're non-tolerance so you won't become immune to them over time.i recommended them 100% lol i know i sound like an ad or something but im telling the truth, now that they've worked so well for me i want to help fellow sufferers..
all the best
eliz 88
 
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