Neighbors

[kiwi]

Kiwi I agree with Bluenow you are not obligated to socialize with your neighbours,
does it really matter to you, if your neighbours think that you are anti-social or unfriendly? I would suspect that you wouldn’t be a topic of conversation apart from a passing comment of not being around. In

No I'm sure they wouldn't really even notice me, except like you say just a passing comment when they might see me walking by. I just feel like an outsider and that makes me uncomfortable whether it's at work, home, whatever. I don't mind being around strangers if everyone is a stranger and not really friendly to each other, it's only when the other people seem to get along with each other well and I'm one of the few who isn't part of the group.

It's all in my head, I know, and I shouldn't care so much about it. Convincing myself is the hard bit

Oh and Kiwi, I may be in the UK and you are in what is termed here as Gods own country and the best place to live NZ, but after reading this post don’t get all stressed out just give us a smile it’s only a Fu***n post It won’t bite you.

 

[FaymeLevy]

my neighbors in my apartment complex do the same thing, a couple times a year. I usually sit in the dark and listen to them have fun.

Yay, someone else who suffers the same problem :wink:

Do they hold the party close to your apartment? It would be too stressful for me to stay inside while the parties going. I would be terrified that someone would see that I'm still home and then come and find out why I'm not at the party!

So I stay away whenever they have these things. Another fear I have in the back of my mind is that because the organiser knows I haven't been to one of these things in the past, he might exclude me when he drops off the flyers in people's mailboxes.

Not that I mind not being invited, but then I won't have any warning as to when the party is and might get caught out one night when I'm at home, or coming home from somewhere, and there's a party going on! That would be unbearable!

Yes, it's usually right outside my door. I can't escape! I never know when they're going to have them, and if i try to leave while they're having them, they'll not only see me, they'll talk to me. While drunk, which i find is even stranger. lol

 

[kiwi]

Yes, it's usually right outside my door. I can't escape! I never know when they're going to have them, and if i try to leave while they're having them, they'll not only see me, they'll talk to me. While drunk, which i find is even stranger. lol

Eek, that sounds pretty scary.

Are these parties that the whole complex is invited to, or are they private ones? I guess if you don't know when they're going to have them then they're probably private ones.

I sort of have a similar problem when either of my immediate neighbours entertain guests in their courtyards. It's not that bad because they're not really rowdy parties, just a small group of people having dinner outside, but I still find it nerve-wracking walking past a group of people like that.

The thing that makes the neighbour-hood party worse is that I am invited to it, so not showing up year after year makes me think the other neighbours will think I'm a snob.

Oh well, not much I can do about it if I'm not willing to turn up to one. Maybe if I had flatmates or friends who I could bring along then I would turn up, but on my own would be suicide!

 

[bluenow]

my immediate neighbours entertain guests in their courtyards. It's not that bad because they're not really rowdy parties, just a small group of people having dinner outside, but I still find it nerve-wracking walking past a group of people like that.

Having to endure that week after week would be so much harder for me than going to a party. I would certainly stay in more often if they were outside my door.

Or maybe I would crawl out so they wouldn't see me. :lol: