Need Some Advice :/

[Annie13]

well many things have happened in my life too much i can handle at the age of 13 so my mum thought it would be a good idea to get a counciller and see a doctor , so i went to the doctors today and she said i would have to see CAMS which is a childrens mental health team but the problem is i dont like to talk to people about the things i have been through so im not sure what to do would really appreciate it if people would take there time to give me some advice. x annie x

 

[Annie13]

the problem is i have difficulties opening up to people i dont know why i just do , whenever i open up to someone i end up crying thankyou for the advice though and yeh i hope everything does go well because i dont need the stress before my birthday <3

 

[Annie13]

the reason why i dont like talking to people is bullying, rejection im not shy as such but i dont like talking about things like my family and stuff like that , and my favourite color is purple if you must know and thankyou its in 19 days <3

 

[Danfalc]

the problem is i have difficulties opening up to people i dont know why i just do , whenever i open up to someone i end up crying thankyou for the advice though and yeh i hope everything does go well because i dont need the stress before my birthday <3

Hi Annie

It can be really hard to open up with people you don't know, especially about our fears and emotions.

It might seem like a silly Idea but I sometimes write a little list of bullet points of things I want to get across so I have reference if I start to clam up.

But Berries is right also, it's their job to learn about your problems and they will probably take it slow and be really understanding. Most doctors and stuff tend to star slow asking how you are and how you have been coping recently. Then they will get a little bit more specific but it really takes the pressure off.

Again this might sound silly but some people think about what they might get asked, and sort of rehearse answers and that can seem to help. But hopefully you will feel comfy enough to open up once you go. I hope it goes well for you.

 

[Annie13]

thankyou for the advice, yes i might do that , i have been to a counciller at school before but that didnt turn out to good, i cried and didnt get anything out of it x

 

[Danfalc]

thankyou for the advice, yes i might do that , i have been to a counciller at school before but that didnt turn out to good, i cried and didnt get anything out of it x

Your welcome. And well it's not easy so try not to beat yourself up. You did really well just to go imo.

It sounds like you have a lot of hard things that you are dealing with, while it might really help having these people to talk to.But It's important you don't pressure yourself and make yourself more stressed if you don't feel ready at first.

Hopefully with time you will learn to trust the people you will be seeing and when you feel ready you can start being more open. But I think these people you will see will have a lot more experience that the school councillor too which should help.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Alot of the time, my councilor doesn't ask me about my past at all. She asks me about simple things, like... if I did anything that day- what I did to get ready for the appointment and so on.

You don't ever have to say anything if you don't want to or if the question makes you uncomfortable.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

First things first, there is nothing wrong with crying when opening up to people. It is a natural response when you are talking about something difficult and emotionally upsetting. Any professional in the field of mental health will have a understanding of this, so it is not a problem. It is sometimes more healing to let you emotions flow, because it helps to release any blocked energy.

I do advise that you go and see CAMS. All you need to find is a compassionate person that allows you to open up willingly without any judgement, and they can help you overcome the problems you are facing.

It is difficult to take the first step to seeking help, but once you take the steps that you need to take, it will help you immensely.

 

[Annie13]

weirdymcgee thankyou for the advice i hope they dont ask about my past because i dont like explaining about it ,, it makes me think about it all over again and thankyou Aussie_Lad i appreciate peoples advice x