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someoneelse1
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id suggest you just ignore it, im sure it doesnt mean anything in particular, some people are just weird :roll: are you sure its not just your imagination though?
Tigger26
New member
It's not your imagination
Unspoken about true but very common today. One person most appropriately expressed it as bigotry lives in the 21st century. I've been searching the net for answers today and I've found the coughing labeled as 1. Fake Coughing or 2. Mock Coughing.
Since no studies have been done on it I've compiled a list of reactions and actions of people related to this coughing phenonema.
Fake Cough
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* Condescending
* Passive-aggressive
* Lack of candor and open expression
* Passive-aggressive nonsense, the result of awkward, maladapted
people whose social abilities have withered in the era of gated
communities, armored isolation tanks (SUVs and the like), and
nonstop media pap reinforcing boorish behavior.
* Discriminatory
* Bigotry in the 21st century
* Used to drive away inquisitive outsiders
* To show annoyance
* Alternative to being candid about an offensive behavior
My conclusion of my unofficial study...
Fake coughing is a way of passive aggressively pushing your
agenda, letting someone know that they or something they are doing
is against the status quo (ie not cool, etc).
Shame on all you people who think that if you can ignore it in your own minds it doesn't exist!
Unspoken about true but very common today. One person most appropriately expressed it as bigotry lives in the 21st century. I've been searching the net for answers today and I've found the coughing labeled as 1. Fake Coughing or 2. Mock Coughing.
Since no studies have been done on it I've compiled a list of reactions and actions of people related to this coughing phenonema.
Fake Cough
-----------
* Condescending
* Passive-aggressive
* Lack of candor and open expression
* Passive-aggressive nonsense, the result of awkward, maladapted
people whose social abilities have withered in the era of gated
communities, armored isolation tanks (SUVs and the like), and
nonstop media pap reinforcing boorish behavior.
* Discriminatory
* Bigotry in the 21st century
* Used to drive away inquisitive outsiders
* To show annoyance
* Alternative to being candid about an offensive behavior
My conclusion of my unofficial study...
Fake coughing is a way of passive aggressively pushing your
agenda, letting someone know that they or something they are doing
is against the status quo (ie not cool, etc).
Shame on all you people who think that if you can ignore it in your own minds it doesn't exist!
Tigger26
New member
It's not your imagination
Unspoken about true but very common today. One person most appropriately expressed it as bigotry lives in the 21st century. I've been searching the net for answers today and I've found the coughing labeled as 1. Fake Coughing or 2. Mock Coughing.
Since no studies have been done on it I've compiled a list of reactions and actions of people related to this coughing phenonema.
Fake Cough
-----------
* Condescending
* Passive-aggressive
* Lack of candor and open expression
* Passive-aggressive nonsense, the result of awkward, maladapted
people whose social abilities have withered in the era of gated
communities, armored isolation tanks (SUVs and the like), and
nonstop media pap reinforcing boorish behavior.
* Discriminatory
* Bigotry in the 21st century
* Used to drive away inquisitive outsiders
* To show annoyance
* Alternative to being candid about an offensive behavior
My conclusion of my unofficial study...
Fake coughing is a way of passive aggressively pushing your
agenda, letting someone know that they or something they are doing
is against the status quo (ie not cool, etc).
Shame on all you people who think that if you can ignore it in your own minds it doesn't exist!
Unspoken about true but very common today. One person most appropriately expressed it as bigotry lives in the 21st century. I've been searching the net for answers today and I've found the coughing labeled as 1. Fake Coughing or 2. Mock Coughing.
Since no studies have been done on it I've compiled a list of reactions and actions of people related to this coughing phenonema.
Fake Cough
-----------
* Condescending
* Passive-aggressive
* Lack of candor and open expression
* Passive-aggressive nonsense, the result of awkward, maladapted
people whose social abilities have withered in the era of gated
communities, armored isolation tanks (SUVs and the like), and
nonstop media pap reinforcing boorish behavior.
* Discriminatory
* Bigotry in the 21st century
* Used to drive away inquisitive outsiders
* To show annoyance
* Alternative to being candid about an offensive behavior
My conclusion of my unofficial study...
Fake coughing is a way of passive aggressively pushing your
agenda, letting someone know that they or something they are doing
is against the status quo (ie not cool, etc).
Shame on all you people who think that if you can ignore it in your own minds it doesn't exist!
LittleMissMuffet
Well-known member
HI,
This is so funny. Because it is exactly what I experience.
Just yesterday I experienced this whilst shopping.
-I also wonder whether it is truly that others are reacting to me or whether it is my negative, self-conscious assumption that they are reacting to me.
However, either way, both of these are the same.
Really it is just self-consciousness in both cases.
The thing I think that works is to give-up being self-conscious about being self-conscious!!!!! ...the vicious circle is worrying about worrying. -so if we worry about worrying, we are just repeating the same thing.
Now, how just to do this....?
That is harder.
All I know is is that I am getting better at it. I care less and less everyday about being self-conscious -ie: I am less self-conscious about being self-conscious.
Eventually I will no-longer be self-conscious in a negative way at all.
How I've been able to do this?
...well, I know that I've given-up trying to figure things out and given up my hobby of analysing things to death. I've adpted Mindfulness as my approach to solving problems -where the basis is that instead of tryingn to elimiate a problem, being able to 'see' the problem, to observe it, is to make it disappear. So, in a way, I am doing the exact opposite: what I want to not be there, I make a point of ackowledging being there.
...I think this is what is meant by the spiritual saying: "What you resist persists, but what you look at disappears"
...or, a mistake is no longer a mistake when a person makes the point of claiming it as a part of them. Whilst trying to stop it or change or eliminate it makes it a mistake, simply because we either put something in perspective or we focus upon it and blow it out of perspective.
BEcause this is not at all easy, there are techniques like Mindfulness and also there may be a few habits of mind that need to be recognised as unhelpful (in that they are ways we continue to perceive something in terms of trying to eliminate or resist). There may also be other things to look into.
There is a useful site to help you: www.mindfulrecovery.com
If what I've described appeals to you, check out this site. It is pretty good (even my councelor said so)
This is so funny. Because it is exactly what I experience.
Just yesterday I experienced this whilst shopping.
-I also wonder whether it is truly that others are reacting to me or whether it is my negative, self-conscious assumption that they are reacting to me.
However, either way, both of these are the same.
Really it is just self-consciousness in both cases.
The thing I think that works is to give-up being self-conscious about being self-conscious!!!!! ...the vicious circle is worrying about worrying. -so if we worry about worrying, we are just repeating the same thing.
Now, how just to do this....?
That is harder.
All I know is is that I am getting better at it. I care less and less everyday about being self-conscious -ie: I am less self-conscious about being self-conscious.
Eventually I will no-longer be self-conscious in a negative way at all.
How I've been able to do this?
...well, I know that I've given-up trying to figure things out and given up my hobby of analysing things to death. I've adpted Mindfulness as my approach to solving problems -where the basis is that instead of tryingn to elimiate a problem, being able to 'see' the problem, to observe it, is to make it disappear. So, in a way, I am doing the exact opposite: what I want to not be there, I make a point of ackowledging being there.
...I think this is what is meant by the spiritual saying: "What you resist persists, but what you look at disappears"
...or, a mistake is no longer a mistake when a person makes the point of claiming it as a part of them. Whilst trying to stop it or change or eliminate it makes it a mistake, simply because we either put something in perspective or we focus upon it and blow it out of perspective.
BEcause this is not at all easy, there are techniques like Mindfulness and also there may be a few habits of mind that need to be recognised as unhelpful (in that they are ways we continue to perceive something in terms of trying to eliminate or resist). There may also be other things to look into.
There is a useful site to help you: www.mindfulrecovery.com
If what I've described appeals to you, check out this site. It is pretty good (even my councelor said so)
theslowesthand
Banned
True, analysing can only take you so far, and in my experience almost never provides a complete, practical solution.
Here's another possibility, concerning the "sniffing". PERHAPS it's similar to the "sigh", in that the person gets "out of breath" (due something having been said which makes them nervous or anxious), and so the sniff is to get a "boost" of oxygen (as they now need it, due to the sudden increase of stress). I do this often, alone & with people. I do have some breathing issues (shallow/irregular breathing, slight asthma-like problem, don't exercise much), so it takes very little "stress" for me to "lose my breath". It could also be related to my GAD & general nervousness that i have. And people have mentioned it on occasion. One time was when i was getting dismissed, and the employer used that as a chance to complain to me how i was always "sniffing" at him! (ie he took it as some kind of "insult", when in truth it was due not so much about what/how he was talking, but mainly that i was extra-sensitive to the slightest of stresses .. which meant i "lost my breath" quite often, & needed to "sniff" to get some more oxygen "pronto")
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shakethelight
Well-known member
I don't know why they would do that but it's rude. I am the type of person that would probably say something if they did it enough times.
That's pure gold, Miss Muffet!
