My life would be better if I had a girlfriend

sullyS25 · 2013-03-05T11:38:48+00:00

Does anyone believe this is true? For straight females it would obviously be boyfriend instead of girlfriend. I only ask because I see a pattern in a lot of posts that has led me to believe that people think that their problems would go away if they had a partner. I just want people to know that...

Started by sullyS25 · Mar 5, 2013 · 69 replies

sullyS25 Mar 15, 2013 at 3:40 PM #61 Report

NightTimeForever said: ↑
I'm beginning to realize that my problems are more fundamental than getting a girlfriend, and it's likely that I'm just irredeemably screwed up.

I dont think youre irredeemably screwed up but I DO think that self-defeating attitude will hinder your potential to change.

hexagon_sun Mar 15, 2013 at 3:45 PM #62 Report

sullyS25 said: ↑
I dont think youre irredeemably screwed up but I DO think that self-defeating attitude will hinder your potential to change.

I agree! Recognize your flaws, but don't sell yourself short. Don't be fatalist or beat yourself-up. You can get better. If you have negative people around you, tune them out or get away from them if at all possible.

BlackPuma Mar 15, 2013 at 5:02 PM #63 Report

狼 said: ↑
My life would be better if I had __cake__ .

Yes. Yes I agree.

NightTimeForever Mar 15, 2013 at 6:44 PM #64 Report

sullyS25 said: ↑
I dont think youre irredeemably screwed up but I DO think that self-defeating attitude will hinder your potential to change.

You're probably right.

Marc7 Mar 17, 2013 at 7:05 PM #65 Report

sullyS25 said: ↑
Yes Im still with her and we are closer than ever even with her living in California and me being in Spain until June....Thank you for the advice.....Ive learned not to message them alot if they dont respond the hard way too! haha

No problem

How did you learn the hard way?

Metal_isthe_Answer Mar 17, 2013 at 7:37 PM #66 Report

Kiwong said: ↑
My life would be better if I lived in the wilderness surrounded by nature. My probelms are maginifed when I am around people.

We should switch, I live in the country and I cant imagine a worse hell.
Perhaps if I could sit in my room without wasps dive bombing my head around summer time it wouldnt be so bad

sullyS25 Mar 17, 2013 at 11:22 PM #67 Report

lttalk74 said: ↑
No problem

How did you learn the hard way?

I used to text girls nonstop when they wouldnt respond to me and in the end I never heard back from them OR they told me to stop talking to them.

GrungeGuy07 Mar 18, 2013 at 12:36 AM #68 Report

all of your posts are pretty spot on for me. i think of myself as a pretty open compassionate person i think my social anxiety stems from bad feedback and such. which has actually improved, so my sa isnt as critical as it used to be. i think im just waiting for my soul mate, so sexual relationships seem redundant. idk

Duzmiu Mar 18, 2013 at 12:45 AM #69 Report

i would like to think my life would be better but i know it wouldnt as a relationship isnt an easy thing.
i would like any women in my life that isnt family or online, just a good friend, someone who cares for me as much as i would them, someone to make life not so lonely and a bit more fun.

to be honest i think the only reason i think about a girlfriend at the moment is for the sex, its been a very long time since ive had it and could say my testicals are slowly taking over my brain when i think about women. sexual frustration...pain in the arse 😛

Marc7 Mar 18, 2013 at 3:04 PM #70 Report

sullyS25 said: ↑
I used to text girls nonstop when they wouldnt respond to me and in the end I never heard back from them OR they told me to stop talking to them.

I did and still do that too sometimes, maybe thats reason they don't respond back to me.

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