My fantasy...

[Ventrilo]

And I'm sure I'm not alone on this one. My fantasy is simple, to find a real girl (not one of the far too frequent empty ones) who suffers from the same condition as me. It's so simple and my favorite part is how infinitesimally small the probability is, since if we both have SA and we have a hard time interacting with people without it imagine how hard it would be to find another person with this... But think about how incredible it would be to work through the problem with someone who actually fully understands and is actually empathetic...

Sigh...

 

[zootdroop]

That's my fantasy too

 

[chris87]

I probably would still be nervous, even if the other person had SA.

 

[alwmt]

I have the same fantasy except I want to find a guy. I don't see myself ever meeting anyone though. I think I will die a spinster, but seeing as how I don't like people, I think I would be okay with that.

 

[Ventrilo]

Although I admit to not liking most people I have theorized the possibility of loving someone, although I too sincerely doubt I will ever find anyone too

 

[DaDahhhhDaDaDa]

Well I'm good friends with a girl who had social phobia and depression in the past, but to be honest, I'd really, really like to be with a woman who is genuinely happy and carefree. I know if I did romance a girl who was happy, simply by taking her out regularly it's likely that my social phobia would be gone and I'd also be OCD free. No need for God damn SSRIs with shitty side effects.

I can say we do support each other a lot though, but not exactly in the way you think. It often involves repeatedly answering and reassuring each other's rants, we can't 'recover' because we simply don't know how.

 

[blue-roses]

Sometimes I think I'd like to find a guy who has SA, but on the other hand, I want to have kids one day and two SAers should NOT breed IMO! So it might be nice, but not as a long-term thing.

 

[TheLonelyArabian]

Sometimes I think I'd like to find a guy who has SA, but on the other hand, I want to have kids one day and two SAers should NOT breed IMO! So it might be nice, but not as a long-term thing.

Exactly..............

 

[SnowLily]

Surprisingly this doesn't always work, I had a male friend with SA for a while and for the most part when we talked it consisted of a series of awkward silences interrupted by random five minute bursts of conversation, empathy does very little good if you're incapable of communicating it ^_^;. Admittedly this is just my experience though, this sort of relationship may work better for others.

 

[Nicholas]

I used to think that finding a girl with the same problems as me was the solution. Then I realized it wouldn't be a solution. It would be another pathetic workaround, another way to let my problems control my life. The truth is we need to get better, so that it won't be important anymore whether our partner has our same problems or not. Of course I wouldn't like an insensitive extravert girlfriend, but that doesn't mean depressed phobic girls are the only ones for me. A normal sensitive girl will do, but I must get better first, and this is true of you all as well, you guys.

 

[LadyWench]

And I'm sure I'm not alone on this one. My fantasy is simple, to find a real girl (not one of the far too frequent empty ones) who suffers from the same condition as me. It's so simple and my favorite part is how infinitesimally small the probability is, since if we both have SA and we have a hard time interacting with people without it imagine how hard it would be to find another person with this... But think about how incredible it would be to work through the problem with someone who actually fully understands and is actually empathetic...

Sigh...

I can relate 100%. Even though I love and adore the person I'm with, it would be wonderful to find someone that completely understands my problems. Not just understands them, though, but actually goes through them, too. Alas, that isn't going to happen.

 

[talisman]

I'd find it difficult to connect with someone who doesn't understand and experience some form of SA...in fact I'd probably be jealous of them. However it is true that sometimes two SA people just don't work well together despite all their similarities...whether its down to long silences, lack of confidence to go and do things, one person letting the other make all the decisions or simple one person having too many issues for the other to deal with.

Ideally I'd find a shy girl who does have some experience of SA, but wants to try and overcome it as best she can, together with me.

 

[Moonie]

I wouldn’t be opposed to dating a guy with SA. The guy I am with now is pretty shy compared to my past BFs, but he still has a nice circle of friends and some confidence. I will admit that there are awkward silences and it has been harder to warm up to him.

Most of the other guys I have dated have been pretty outgoing. I think the contrast between me and those outgoing guys created a nice balance. However, I think these guys are also more likely to become annoyed/bored with me.