my best friend is leaving school

[max111]

hi,
im a 13 year old boy and my best friend is leaving school. i am in school holidays right now:: this is really bothering me as i used to be together with him always. at recess and lunch in class, everywhere. now im gonna b a loner. in class my seats are permanent so i will be a loner in all my classes. also at recess and lunch idk what to do. please help me

thanks

 

[Jake123]

Make new friends!

 

[reslo]

you're young, and it may seem like it's impossible to make new friends, but sometimes it only takes a simple hey can i join you for lunch or hey want to come my house and play xbox to make a few new friends... there are always "loners" at school- those people that feel like they don't fit in & have few or no friends- i can guarentee you are not the only one. although it's really tough to have your best friend move away, it's good to branch out on your own (hope you guys still keep in contact- because i'm sure it's going to be tough too for him to be in a new school)

I've had lots of my closest friends move away- my best friends from kindergarten, 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade all moved away, and i never heard from them since (this was in the time before the internet lol). but in middle school, i met my bff whom i'm still friends with (and im 23)
(i also went to a middle school where i 99% of the kids did not come from my primary school- so that was tough at that time too)

school is a unique experience- you will not be surrounded by so many people your age everyday like that in adulthood. It may be a good idea to check out some clubs/after school activities that you've never tried before to mingle in some new circles.

every school year is new chance to reinvent yourself- you will see people who used to be really popular fall back and become really unpopular, and you'll see the opposite happen too.

i just wish wish wish i could go back and change a lot of the stuff i did when i was a teen- but i can't. you have the opportunity to make a change, and say no im not going to let life pass me by.

pass a note saying hi to the person next to you, ask people how they did on tests, or ask to borrow a pencil- it sounds corny but if you want a friend, be a friend. (meaning just be nice to somebody on a somewhat consistent basis- not stalker though )

and if you feel like you are really struggling or having issues, you could probably talk to the school counselor- they are paid to help out kids with whatever issues they have, but i know some counselors are kinda annoying as hell so idunno, but they are there.

hope that helps!

 

[Sinopia]

Don't worry. You're 13 years old and still young. You should go make some new friends. I'm sure that your classmates will like you. You need to have some self-confidence. You can hang around with people in your neighbourhood. What are your interests? You can join sports or do other activities that you like. You'll meet new people. They won't judge you when they see you for the first time. Is there a scoial worker in your school? Maybe they can give you some advice or teach you some social skills.

Plus you can always keep having contact with your friend who's leaving school.

Good luck and don't worry too much!

 

[Noca]

My best friend left my school in gr 5. I am still friends with him today (im 23 now). I was lonely though when he left but I managed to make new friends.

 

[Lonelykitsune]

hi,
im a 13 year old boy and my best friend is leaving school. i am in school holidays right now:: this is really bothering me as i used to be together with him always. at recess and lunch in class, everywhere. now im gonna b a loner. in class my seats are permanent so i will be a loner in all my classes. also at recess and lunch idk what to do. please help me

thanks

this is exactly what happened to me,same age too..the new peolpe in my class tried to speak to me but when they saw how awkward and boring i was thy gave up.i tag along with a few nice people when we have group work but otherwise im alone for everything,i dont sit beside people cos they always ask me to swap cos the3y were saving it for a friend.i still speak to my best and only frie4nd who left but shes kinda moved on.it gets pretty miserable.Dont let it happen to you!

 

[Noca]

People in most every class I know, know that I am really smart and they ask me to be their partner in group work. Thats one way to make friends.