Missing Out

[Interzone]

Basically, I'm was just wondering if I was alone in not doing some of these things before being 18. Now that I am 18, it seems like it would inappropriate and/or immature to do these things and it would just be plain weird now at my age. Yet these things I have never done before and yearn so much to do before I get even older, yet I know chances are they will happen.

I've never played truth or dare, or spin the bottle or, seven minutes in heaven. I guess because I never really had any friends or didn't go to any parties but I would have liked to have had the chance to try those out in highschool like everybody. It's not just with these three things, but with many other things that regular highschools are expected to do, I'm not saying that everyone is supposed to do the same things, but I wish I had done some of these.

I've never ever had a girlfriend, I've never even kissed a girl let alone flirted with one. Now I'm in college where relationships are supposed to be a lot more serious and are a huge step up from highschool relationships where you just had the chance to mess around with a bunch of different girls and see what you liked. The way I see it, having a gf in highschool is like a baby step for having other gf's later on in life and now that I've missed that step, the former step, is now a leap, a much greater challenge.

In a way I feel like the "innocence" of these things that I was supposed to have done in highschool is now gone. I'm now in college everything is serious and it's basically we are all adults here. Now everything is so different, before we were just kids and now we are adults. Everything is so much more complicated now.

I feel like I've missed out on so much and I wish I hadn't, now I'm in college and going done the same lonely path that I did in highschool, it's even worse. I'm already frustrated with my life, the routines, the people who don't seem to give a damn. I'm just losing it more and more every day, I don't see a genuine way out of this.

It's troubling to me because the older I get, the worse I will feel about all of this, I already feel like shit about it but it can only get worse from here on out. Till what point I hold out to, I really don't know, but I am so sick of being alone. I know I'm not alone, I know there are many of you out there, but please, say something. ::::::

 

[AimeeSP]

Hey there, i feel the same too (i'm 18 in march). I dropped out of school when i was 13 and since then i feel like i've missed out on so much too, socializing, partying, new friends etc. Sometimes i still feel like that 13 year old kid because socially i seem to be behind all my friends. First of all i'd like to say well done on going to college! I couldn't go to college last year in september because social phobia beat me, i'm hoping to go next september. But honestly, well done there, i just wanted to let you know you're not alone. *big hug*

 

[Nack]

The spin the bottle, etc. and the high school jazz. I think its a cultural thing, i never really care much for them... Nor my friends in high school. Especially the one gig about having sex before college, some high students are so "stupid" about that idea. I mean is it the end of the world if you don't get laid before college? Seriously... the only thing that comes with that is more problems...

 

[Interzone]

Hey there, i feel the same too (i'm 18 in march). I dropped out of school when i was 13 and since then i feel like i've missed out on so much too, socializing, partying, new friends etc. Sometimes i still feel like that 13 year old kid because socially i seem to be behind all my friends. First of all i'd like to say well done on going to college! I couldn't go to college last year in september because social phobia beat me, i'm hoping to go next september. But honestly, well done there, i just wanted to let you know you're not alone. *big hug*

I know, college, it's like a sea of people so I just try not to bring attention to myself. But, I think that may be why I really do not have any friends and it suck. People just don't seem to care. But I don't want to bring attention to myself, I just want one genuine friend, just one.

The spin the bottle, etc. and the high school jazz. I think its a cultural thing, i never really care much for them... Nor my friends in high school. Especially the one gig about having sex before college, some high students are so "stupid" about that idea. I mean is it the end of the world if you don't get laid before college? Seriously... the only thing that comes with that is more problems...

Well yes, obviously it's a cultural thing, but I feel like I missed out. It's not just those things either, but the fact that I had no fun whatsoever during my highschool years with anyone. The sex part is a different story, obviously it's something far more dubious act than just a simple "exploring" game like truth or dare and seven minutes in heaven.

 

[Luke1993]

im in college now and like you never played spin the bottle or any of that stuff (Though i suppose it's more of an american thing) but like you i wish i couldve had a girlfriend ack then as id have had experience in the field. But not all hope is lost! We still have a fair bit of our lives to go!

 

[Interzone]

im in college now and like you never played spin the bottle or any of that stuff (Though i suppose it's more of an american thing) but like you i wish i couldve had a girlfriend ack then as id have had experience in the field. But not all hope is lost! We still have a fair bit of our lives to go!

Yes, but I feel that the older we get things just get more serious and you can't have as much fun exploring and stuff. So it is different I think.

 

[redski]

Yes, but I feel that the older we get things just get more serious and you can't have as much fun exploring and stuff. So it is different I think.

Interzone is right. I am 28 and I really feel that I have missed out on things in my youth and I am to old now to do those things.

 

[Luke1993]

Yes, but I feel that the older we get things just get more serious and you can't have as much fun exploring and stuff. So it is different I think.

Yes of course! But we cannot go back in time! In an ideal world we would've both liked to be able to do that stuff back then!

But we can't. So we just have to make do! Someone once told me if you dwell too much on the past, your future becomes your past.

 

[Interzone]

I know I have to live my life now when I am young, but, there's this huge barrier in my way it's stopping me. I do not see a way out at this point and the days keep passing by faster and faster and I am going nowhere.

I've got less than two years left before I am no longer a teenager.

 

[Interzone]

People always seem to take things the wrong way or misinterpret things. They take my quiet shyness for rudeness.

 

[dream]

Omg. im 24 going on 25! Wtf, i feel so behind:S honesty, try your hardest to get help! so you can move forward not behind like me The fear or anxiety may get worse, try not to look at other people's lives from a outsider's point of you, just focus on your life it's the only one you got!Your young don't worry

 

[sabbath]

I take my card and I stand in line
To make a buck I work overtime
Dear Sir letters keep coming in the mail
I work my back till it's racked with pain
The boss can't even recall my name
I show up late and I'm docked
It never fails
I feel like just another
Spoke in a great big wheel
Like a tiny blade of grass
In a great big field
To workers I'm just another drone
To Ma Bell I'm just another phone
I'm just another statistic on a sheet
To teachers I'm just another child
To IRS I'm just another file
I'm just another consensus on the street
Gonna cruise out of this city
Head down to the sea
Gonna shout out at the ocean
Hey it's me
And I feel like a number
Feel like a number
Feel like a stranger
A stranger in this land
I feel like a number
I'm not a number
I'm not a number
Dammit I'm a man
I said I'm a man

 

[limetree]

I feel like I've missed out on some of these things too but at the same time I think most high school "rites of passages" are just plain stupid. I was curious to play "have you ever..." but I wasn't invited to that party. My friend filled me in and said the questions were all vacuous anyway like "have you ever given anyone a blowjob?" "Have you ever gotten so shitfaced drunk you tried to kiss someone of the same sex?" I'm not going to drink, smoke, have casual sex just to fit in, enter a relationship just to get relationship experience, or go to a party just to say I went to one if I don't genuinely like the people and vice versa... looking back it's nothing I could've forced upon myself or others, I just have to work towards the future and try to find other friends who are on my wavelength.

eh some people seem to take pictures/videos just so they can put them on their facebook page and show off how popular they are, I think most of high school culture is gossipy and shallow. It's fair enough to wish you had friendships, but bonding does not have to revolve around these activities. The majority of my high school social life involved meeting randoms with my friend on msn and myspace, I still treasure those memories tbh as pointless and fleeting as they may have been.

 

[Interzone]

I feel like I've missed out on some of these things too but at the same time I think most high school "rites of passages" are just plain stupid. I was curious to play "have you ever..." but I wasn't invited to that party. My friend filled me in and said the questions were all vacuous anyway like "have you ever given anyone a blowjob?" "Have you ever gotten so shitfaced drunk you tried to kiss someone of the same sex?" I'm not going to drink, smoke, have casual sex just to fit in, enter a relationship just to get relationship experience, or go to a party just to say I went to one if I don't genuinely like the people and vice versa... looking back it's nothing I could've forced upon myself or others, I just have to work towards the future and try to find other friends who are on my wavelength.

eh some people seem to take pictures/videos just so they can put them on their facebook page and show off how popular they are, I think most of high school culture is gossipy and shallow. It's fair enough to wish you had friendships, but bonding does not have to revolve around these activities. The majority of my high school social life involved meeting randoms with my friend on msn and myspace, I still treasure those memories tbh as pointless and fleeting as they may have been.

Your right.