Lunch.

[Walk]

Hell yeah, high school lunches can be a literal NIGHTMARE if you don't have any friends. I'm serious. It was to me sometimes.

 

[grakovsky]

I have the same problem in HIgh school. I used to have a group of friends but they all dispersed or moves in high school and i couldn't find anyone so i moved to the group of losers, they are losers even by my standards and i hate sitting with them, i have nothing in common, but I have no one else, so i just go there and then go to the library and do homework or something.

Sometimes people ask me to sit with them and when i do its so freaking weird cause I can't say anything =( If i get over this problem and find some normal friends my life would be much better.

Dude, take advantage of when people ask you to sit with them. Just tell them the truth, not all of it, but be pretty open. Say like, I just haven't been able to make friends for the longest... they should accept you if they're worth your time.

Even in my most lonely days in school, some people invited me to hang out with them (albeit once in a blue moon) and I didn't and I'm paying dearly to this day for chickening out; don't be like me! Appreciate it, it'll all work out if you just know their names and say what's up.

I hope for the best for all of us this coming year. Shyness is a fucked up thing!!

I tried and it was OK cause I knew like 3 of them, but they wouldn't really talk to me and I had no idea what to say to them so I just had to give it up...I don't know how to explain but its clear I shouldn't' have really been sitting there.

 

[Walk]

I have the same problem in HIgh school. I used to have a group of friends but they all dispersed or moves in high school and i couldn't find anyone so i moved to the group of losers, they are losers even by my standards and i hate sitting with them, i have nothing in common, but I have no one else, so i just go there and then go to the library and do homework or something.

Sometimes people ask me to sit with them and when i do its so freaking weird cause I can't say anything =( If i get over this problem and find some normal friends my life would be much better.

Dude, take advantage of when people ask you to sit with them. Just tell them the truth, not all of it, but be pretty open. Say like, I just haven't been able to make friends for the longest... they should accept you if they're worth your time.

Even in my most lonely days in school, some people invited me to hang out with them (albeit once in a blue moon) and I didn't and I'm paying dearly to this day for chickening out; don't be like me! Appreciate it, it'll all work out if you just know their names and say what's up.

I hope for the best for all of us this coming year. Shyness is a fucked up thing!!

I tried and it was OK cause I knew like 3 of them, but they wouldn't really talk to me and I had no idea what to say to them so I just had to give it up...I don't know how to explain but its clear I shouldn't' have really been sitting there.

Maybe you should keep on trying. See if you can at least learn some social skill by being around them. Use those skills to talk to another person in one of your classes. You might end up hooking up with another crowd that you are more likely to vibe with. There's lots of people in school, so I'm pretty sure that there's at least one or two good people that you could get along with. They can be your "magic link". It only takes one person to invite you to a party or to their friends and eventually you might end the day with two friends, then three, then you have a healthy circle of friends to do fun shit with. Alter your mindset a little too; be a bit more optimistic but get ready to be rejected too. It'll be alright, you won't regret it. Life is hard to everyone.

And just to make sure, I wouldn't give up trying to talk to these people. Give it a few weeks and you'll probably get more comfortable with each other; but again, if worse comes to worst, just learn as much social skills by being around these guys for a while longer if you can.

That's what I would do if I was in high school. Just keep on small talking to everyone I can, seriously. Eventually, you might get invited to a party,etc

 

[littl3misstrange]

during middle school, i just sat with random people. i was pretty much invisible to everyone, & there wasn't any pressure to talk, since no one noticed me. i pretended i had a group of friends, when all i did was sit & watch them all talk. no one talked to me. i might as well have eaten alone.

during my first 2.5 years of high school, i spent my lunch hour in a deserted bathroom on the lower level of the school, & sat on the toilet, sometimes doing homework, sometimes listening to music, or sometimes just staring at the walls & crying silently.
during my last few years of high school, i spent most of my lunchtime in the library, mindlessly flipping through tabloid-type magazines, trying to look like i had something to do.

school lunches were always hell for me. i felt like a drifting ghost, who no one would ever care about.

 

[nico82]

I used to always go to the library and if the library was closed I would hide in the bathroom or just wander around

 

[lyricalliaisons]

From the 5th grade on, I sat alone because I had no friends. I was tortured by everyone all through the school day, & because I was very overweight at the time, it just made lunch much worse. Middle school was especially horrific. Sometimes, though, especially while in high school, people would come up & try to talk to me & try to get me to sit with them. That would just make my SA much worse because I didn't want anyone talking to me & I didn't know what to do or say.

I'm about to start college full time in two weeks &, because I have no transportation, & will have to be at school for almost 8 hours, & will be gone from home for over 12 hours, I'm going to have to eat while on campus. I'm not sure how I'm going to deal with it. I'm almost certain someone will come up & start talking to me while I'm in the cafeteria, so I've decided that I'll probably just eat in the bathroom. I know I'll get a migraine & get nauseous if I don't eat at all, so I guess that's my only choice.

 

[grakovsky]

hi Walk

But its so hard! I don't think I'm that bad at socializing its just if im comfortable around them or not. It's actually usually people who talk to me first, but there are some people that i am able to be perfectly normal around but when in a foreign environment with people I don't know, im going to be the weird quiet kid till someone talks to me.

BTW I used to have a friend that actually knew people and we would do stuff together put my neo nazi parents don't let me hang around with him any longer because they caught me with marijuana. Just as I was starting to make friends I was forced back down and had to go back to my loser freinds which i still can't stand sitting with.

i guess all I can do now is try to talk to people during class and hope to make a friend good enough that I can eat lunch with his group cause I really want out of "my" group. Since your trying to help me out (which I hugely appreciate, thank you) my old friend sometimes mentions parties. Admittedly, never been to a "real" party so what the fuck should I do! keep in mind that people already see me as a weird nerdy loser so what would i do if i ever was invited. Plus i can never keep a conversation going cause i'm culturally deprived or something and can never think of anything normal to talk about...K im writing to much shit...if anything I said makes sense please answer and help me!!

 

[monkeyisland90]

Heh, this is sort of embarrassing, but I'd really like to know.

When you were in school, or being in school now, how do/did you get through school lunch? Do/did you have people to hang round with, or are/were you left on your own?

Being a senior, I've now the oppurtunity to go outside of school at lunchtimes, and so everyone is taking advantage of that fact with the nearby town. I have one person to go town with fortunately, but I've realised how dependant on her I am and I feel so guilty. On the days I had off ill, I felt like she probably went with someone else and realised what she was missing out on by coming with me, heh..and on the days she has clubs, ohh, I hate them. I have no one else to go with as I'm not close to anyone at all, last year at least I had some people, but this year there's really no one.

So I have many lunchtimes to look forward to, with me either hiding in the toilets or peering through the library's window of which I'm still too scared to actually go into. I suppose I could go home, but then I'd have to explain as to why.

ahh, dilemmas. :roll:

Ahhh lunchtime, initially i had no one to sit with and knew i was completely lost and confused but i just kind of sat and blended in with people i used to know and just eat and act my way through survival even though i had nothing to say... lucky for me , i had anxiety in high school but i wasn't aware of it and wasn't too self conscious so it wasn't as bad as it would have if i were to go now.... soon as i had a car it seem a few people asked me to go and eat out of school grounds and i always thought it was that i had a car and not because i was cool or fun...