lilmizsara
Member
There's this guy at work, different departments. I'm an intern here, have 5 weeks left. I'm 21, he's 29. Well I kinda suspect this guy is love-shy. He hasn't had a gf all his life (I will just assume he has dated but hasnt been very intimate with girls). He does have female friends but seems to have only the same friends for years, a very small circle of them. I've seen him speak to girls and he seems normal and can talk. With his male friends at work, he seems alright too, pretty chatty. He's kinda quiet though and is always at his desk or busy with something. He's not one to stand ard and engage in idle gossip and only lunches with his male friends, alone or with a random older colleague. But he's really nice and soft-spoken. And he's not the type who's very friendly, not the HEY HELLO THERE!!! type. rather, he just stalks by ppl mostly.
Well, when we first met, it was at the door, and idk, but we just stood there and stared at each for a few seconds before i came to my senses (but he was still staring). Whenever I enter his side of the office, he'd observe me from his desk. In the early days, whenever he passed my desk, he'd at times glance and then avert his gaze quickly. But whenever we met in the corridor, his face'd already be on mine before i saw him and he actually holds the most amazing eye contact - but i always break it off.
When I did start smiling at him, things changed abit though, he started "checking" to see if im at my desk every morning, but in bet he'd ignore me. And he started hanging ard his friends' side pretty often (across from me), and I sometimes caught him discreetly watching me from there. He never came up to talk to me. Just last week I decided to just go speak to him. I kept moving away from him for some reason (i was nervous too) and he followed after me. He had his attention on my face and his body was directly facing mine all the time. I was keeping it very work-related but he kept asking me more questions abt me than i could abt him. Like did I like my job, my ethnicity, when was I graduating, was I working here after I did, what sorts of jobs or things in general interested me etc. His handshake was real firm and warm though.
After that, whenever he passed me, he'd make it more obvious he's looking at me, like he'd look for eye contact and if i smiled/waved, he did the same. Once, he very flirtily said hello to me and his friend turned to stare. However all i've been doing is, sitting on my chair and smiling at him whenever he passes. I spoke to him again yesterday, i told him I had 5 weeks left here, and he was like "5 weeks? 5 weeks? working here?" and seemed to be thinking abt something. Then a little into our conversation, he suddenly asked where did i usually have my lunch. and that led to what my religion was and if i had siblings at home. i did casually end it off by saying if he wanted lunch, he cld just let me know since i sometimes ate alone.
but OMG, he doesnt initiate anything if i dont!! how should i proceed with this guy?
Well, when we first met, it was at the door, and idk, but we just stood there and stared at each for a few seconds before i came to my senses (but he was still staring). Whenever I enter his side of the office, he'd observe me from his desk. In the early days, whenever he passed my desk, he'd at times glance and then avert his gaze quickly. But whenever we met in the corridor, his face'd already be on mine before i saw him and he actually holds the most amazing eye contact - but i always break it off.
When I did start smiling at him, things changed abit though, he started "checking" to see if im at my desk every morning, but in bet he'd ignore me. And he started hanging ard his friends' side pretty often (across from me), and I sometimes caught him discreetly watching me from there. He never came up to talk to me. Just last week I decided to just go speak to him. I kept moving away from him for some reason (i was nervous too) and he followed after me. He had his attention on my face and his body was directly facing mine all the time. I was keeping it very work-related but he kept asking me more questions abt me than i could abt him. Like did I like my job, my ethnicity, when was I graduating, was I working here after I did, what sorts of jobs or things in general interested me etc. His handshake was real firm and warm though.
After that, whenever he passed me, he'd make it more obvious he's looking at me, like he'd look for eye contact and if i smiled/waved, he did the same. Once, he very flirtily said hello to me and his friend turned to stare. However all i've been doing is, sitting on my chair and smiling at him whenever he passes. I spoke to him again yesterday, i told him I had 5 weeks left here, and he was like "5 weeks? 5 weeks? working here?" and seemed to be thinking abt something. Then a little into our conversation, he suddenly asked where did i usually have my lunch. and that led to what my religion was and if i had siblings at home. i did casually end it off by saying if he wanted lunch, he cld just let me know since i sometimes ate alone.
but OMG, he doesnt initiate anything if i dont!! how should i proceed with this guy?
