Bexi
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Well, i'd say I'm one, maybe some of you lot are too! I like this site
http://www.theantisocialclub.com/asc_page_023.htm
http://www.theantisocialclub.com/asc_page_023.htm
Loners
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Bexi
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Well , I was always shameful of being one, at school I hung out with people I didn't want to, just so I didn't have to be alone, same at college, but now I do as I please. I like my own company now, it's good when you accept yourself. And yes, many influential people were/are loners, and function perfectly well as human beings
Boundless
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At school i had a few close friends,the rest i wasnt keen on but just hung around them to fit in,now i just want to be alone,i would love it if everyone in my city were to move leaving me to just walk the streets without running int o anyone..As much as i do enjoy been alone i still like talking to people on the net because i spend so much time in this 1 room alone i need to talk or i will go mad.
Such a strange thing,wanting to be alone but also wanting to have people around,talking to people stops me doing stupid things like cutting,for a while at least anyway,there i go again mumbleing on about nothing :roll:
Such a strange thing,wanting to be alone but also wanting to have people around,talking to people stops me doing stupid things like cutting,for a while at least anyway,there i go again mumbleing on about nothing :roll:
jenz
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taws said:
hajaju!! :lol: ive tried using some jergens to stop the itch maybe it'll work for you?.! lol ......
I think im a loner too ..I remember in high school some guy trying to point it out in a rude way ..." you're a loner....aren't you?!" .....um yeah what does it look like...!!!!!! :evil: . he was just trying to throw salt at the obvious wound! ...I don't care now but the term loner reminds me of that time...mmmm :evil: anywayz....
Ive tried to accept...the thought of being alone and thinking of my situation differently...like "oh Im independent! i don't need assurance from anybody to know Im ok" lol :lol: ...but reality hits hard when the world around you is very social .....everyone at my age in their...20's ....are at their most social time of their lives....im not saying im not trying to change ...change has been happening but reallll slowly...well ...its better than nothing.... :?
PhantomPod
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I'm a loner. The majority of the time I'm always content with being on my own and doing my own thing. It sucks sometimes though when I'm feeling down and start feeling sorry for myself cause I have no friends and no one to talk to. I'm really close with my mom and dad though, which is good, so I do a lot of things with them and talk a lot with them.
ColdAsIce
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Even as a child I have always found it hard to make friends probably because I was so painfully shy even then...so I use to try and pick out the kids who were like me for instance...(You might want to just read the last part this could go on forever...ha ha)... 
I left my first high school because I couldn't make friends and was bullied constantly, my mum was so upset by this she pulled me out of this school and so she sent me to a school in a "better" area by this time I was entering my second year of high school (year 8 in uk terms, sorry I don't know how the school year systems work in other countries)...and so everyone knew everyone as soon as I walked into that class room I could see the excitement on everyones face...kind of like they couldn't wait to bully me!!..it was awful...I was shaking, my tummy in knots, I felt so sick...so I walked through them all sniggering and pointing at me and I sat with a group of girls who were given the task to show me around, they weren't happy about it, and looked at me like I was some sort of disease.... :wink:
Then I noticed a girl sat in the corner by herself, the longer I sat there observing the situation the more I realise this girl was just like me!!....it seemed like the hole class were against this poor girl, calling her names, throwing rolled up paper at her head, the teacher oblivious!...I don't know what possessed me but I knew I had to do something. I knew there was no genuine people in this class eventually they'd all be bulling me too and so within about an hour of being there I got up from my chair and walked over to her and sat next to her and introduced myself...the girls I was sat with were saying "don't sit with her!!..what are you doing!!??...she's a freak"...blah blah blah...from that day on we were bullied together... :lol: which made it alot easier to be honest, because we were always there for each other she ended up being one of my best mates right up until I left school in 1998...
So apart from this girl and a couple of other girls, we all hung around together and was branded the "rejects"..but it didn't bother us as such, we had some great times!!...haha I haven't seen any of them since I left school and since then I have always been a loner, but I don't mind my own company but I'm always willing to make new friends just so long as someones willing to give me a chance.....
I left my first high school because I couldn't make friends and was bullied constantly, my mum was so upset by this she pulled me out of this school and so she sent me to a school in a "better" area by this time I was entering my second year of high school (year 8 in uk terms, sorry I don't know how the school year systems work in other countries)...and so everyone knew everyone as soon as I walked into that class room I could see the excitement on everyones face...kind of like they couldn't wait to bully me!!..it was awful...I was shaking, my tummy in knots, I felt so sick...so I walked through them all sniggering and pointing at me and I sat with a group of girls who were given the task to show me around, they weren't happy about it, and looked at me like I was some sort of disease.... :wink:
Then I noticed a girl sat in the corner by herself, the longer I sat there observing the situation the more I realise this girl was just like me!!....it seemed like the hole class were against this poor girl, calling her names, throwing rolled up paper at her head, the teacher oblivious!...I don't know what possessed me but I knew I had to do something. I knew there was no genuine people in this class eventually they'd all be bulling me too and so within about an hour of being there I got up from my chair and walked over to her and sat next to her and introduced myself...the girls I was sat with were saying "don't sit with her!!..what are you doing!!??...she's a freak"...blah blah blah...from that day on we were bullied together... :lol: which made it alot easier to be honest, because we were always there for each other she ended up being one of my best mates right up until I left school in 1998...
So apart from this girl and a couple of other girls, we all hung around together and was branded the "rejects"..but it didn't bother us as such, we had some great times!!...haha I haven't seen any of them since I left school and since then I have always been a loner, but I don't mind my own company but I'm always willing to make new friends just so long as someones willing to give me a chance.....
lonesomeboy
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Sa and loneliness is a given. so yes, iam a loner. i feel most comfortable alone.
Sue
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i have a good lot of friends but i avoid them because i love being on my own. it is the simple truth. im so used to being on my own that i enjoy it and if im around alot of people i will walk off on my own.it makes me feel better. i dont care if people are looking at me thinking "oh my god look at the loner"
that is totaly 80's man! :wink:
that is totaly 80's man! :wink:
LittleMissScareAll
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i'm the biggest loner ever.
blubs
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I read some information yesterday on Avoidant Personality Disorder that someone gave me. It described people with this as 'lonely loners'
That definately describes me...I get so anxious around people that I choose to be alone most of the time so I can be relaxed...but I miss company and would much prefer to be around other people if I could.
That definately describes me...I get so anxious around people that I choose to be alone most of the time so I can be relaxed...but I miss company and would much prefer to be around other people if I could.
racheH
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blubs I felt like you for a while. Then I forgot that being with people could be enjoyable at all, so I wasn't aware of missing it, although I think it contributed to being miserable anyway, because it's an instinct to be around people, whether you know that that's what you're missing or not. I just knew that something was missing. But my fear got so bad that I couldn't see how I could ever need people.
Now that a lot of people have left my school, I have friends, or people who seem to tolerate and enjoy my company, but I don't really ever go out with them. They've known each other for longer and I'm not invited anywhere. But I don't mind that. It's such an improvement for me to talk to people at lunch and to be waited for between lessons. I don't think my natural personality puts as much stock on interaction as others' do, or maybe it's that I've learned to amuse myself.
My idea of fun is reading. Deep conversations. Walking. Observing. Music. Etc. I just don't need to go out and do the same things that other people my age do. I'm 17 and not even interested in boys (or girls, for that matter). My dad seems to think that this is must be a bad thing, because it's not normal. I'm grateful that he cares, but it's misplaced. I'm done with conformism. There was far more need for concern when I was afraid of people, but now I'm not, I guess this is who I really am. And I like it
Now that a lot of people have left my school, I have friends, or people who seem to tolerate and enjoy my company, but I don't really ever go out with them. They've known each other for longer and I'm not invited anywhere. But I don't mind that. It's such an improvement for me to talk to people at lunch and to be waited for between lessons. I don't think my natural personality puts as much stock on interaction as others' do, or maybe it's that I've learned to amuse myself.
My idea of fun is reading. Deep conversations. Walking. Observing. Music. Etc. I just don't need to go out and do the same things that other people my age do. I'm 17 and not even interested in boys (or girls, for that matter). My dad seems to think that this is must be a bad thing, because it's not normal. I'm grateful that he cares, but it's misplaced. I'm done with conformism. There was far more need for concern when I was afraid of people, but now I'm not, I guess this is who I really am. And I like it
Waybuloo
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I'm lonely but i wouldn't say im a loner. To me a loner is more about being comfortable with your own company, kind of self-elected solitude, while loneliness is quite the oppsite. If i didn't have Sa and a certain thing that makes me avoidant, i would be quite a social type :?
shyandnumb
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I'm about 95% of a loner, and proud of it.