Lonely and need to vent

[megalon]

Sorry I know this is like a hundred other threads on here but I have nowhere to vent and no one to tell how I feel. I was thinking positively and taking great steps to get over my anxiety. I could hold eye contact and make small talk. Then a few months back I sort of plateaued and started getting depressed and anxious again. I was making all of this progress and still had nothing to show for it, still no real friends. I think I attach way too much importance to relationships. I feel like I will be happy if and only if I get a girlfriend. I have once again realized that this goal is unlikely to ever happen. I have no life. I go to work at my dead-end job and I go home, rinse and repeat. I feel like I have no reason to exist.

 

[MrJones]

still no real friends. I think I attach way too much importance to relationships. I feel like I will be happy if and only if I get a girlfriend. I have once again realized that this goal is unlikely to ever happen. I have no life. I go to work at my dead-end job and I go home, rinse and repeat. I feel like I have no reason to exist.

if you change work for class, I'm exactly in the same situation

but don't worry, if you were making progress you can do it again. start with something easy, make a list of achievable goals and you'll find you can feel a little better again

 

[nightcrawler]

I know exactly how you feel. I have good days where I don't let things (reality!) get to me by keeping myself distracted. Other days I think..."What's the point?" Is life meaningless without that special someone? I often think so, then get depressed as my situation (being single for so long) is unlikely to change. I also have a dead-end job where once home I rarely go out again until work the next day. Also about 2 months ago my best friend moved in with his gf and her kids and I haven't seen him since, so loneliness is starting to get to me. You never know this may give me a kick up the arse and make me go and do something about dating someone.

It sooooooo sounds like a cliche but you never know what lies around the corner...it's that faint glimmer of hope that (just about) keeps me going.

 

[Pacific_Loner]

Love and friendship happens in the most unexpected moments. Just keep living your life, try to make it a pleasant one, and when it happens, even if it's in 10 years, You'll be happy you didn't give up.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

Love and friendship happens in the most unexpected moments. Just keep living your life, try to make it a pleasant one, and when it happens, even if it's in 10 years, You'll be happy you didn't give up.

Big time:

 

[bigcat1967]

I would take a class at a local college. Try to find something your interested in and get fired up about it. I started my own business and am really into it. New things happen everyday.

 

[Fighter86]

At least you have a job, abet a dead end one. Things could be worse, you could be out of job with no means to support yourself. Also, staying home day after day is worse than rising and repeating to go to a bad job. I can totally emphasize with you since I am in a similar situation as you. I don't learn much at my current job, I hardly have much job prospects either because I have not completed tietiary education due to SA. But there are worse things, there were times when I had no job and staying at home day after day, week after week, makes life more unbearable. And then when you want to start work again, it becames even more difficult.

 

[SeasonalBlues]

Sorry I know this is like a hundred other threads on here but I have nowhere to vent and no one to tell how I feel. I was thinking positively and taking great steps to get over my anxiety. I could hold eye contact and make small talk. Then a few months back I sort of plateaued and started getting depressed and anxious again. I was making all of this progress and still had nothing to show for it, still no real friends. I think I attach way too much importance to relationships. I feel like I will be happy if and only if I get a girlfriend. I have once again realized that this goal is unlikely to ever happen. I have no life. I go to work at my dead-end job and I go home, rinse and repeat. I feel like I have no reason to exist.

I'm the same. I always feel like i need a girlfriend to make everything alright, like somehow if i got one everything would just fall into place. I get down about it ALOT.

p.s. Cool signature, i love Brand New

 

[starone]

At least you've made progress on your sa before, that way you know it's possible to get back to that point. I couldn't imagine being comfortable with eye contact and small talk..Im jealous
And just know that having girlfriend won't rid your sa, if anything it will remind you of it even more. I'm in a relationship and still very much feel lonely at times, because I still long for friendships, and just someone else to vent to besides my boyfriend, and the sa still keeps me from doing things I want to do