Nice Personality
Here is something to think about.
There are two kinds of beauty. Outer Beauty ( OB ) and Inner Beauty (IB).
Our western civilization emphasizes OB.
White teeth, muscular build for males, slender for both genders, long hair for women, etc etc.
Let me tell you that the passage of years will result in deterioriation of OB. Women will get pregnant, loose their slenderness and shape that used to give them self esteem and confidence. Gravity will mean that their faces start to sag.
Because they are obsessed with OB they will spend more and more on cosmetics, diets, gym trainers, and plastic surgery.
I am a 58 year old man so this of course is from the other age that some of you.
And muscular young men will get office jobs, put on weight, develop guts and then huge guts. And their teeth will start to yellow from food and nicotine, and the wrinkles on their faces will get deeper and more prononunced as every ten years go by.
SO IF THIS IS TRUE FOR ALL HUMAN BEINGS WHY DO WE PUT SO MUCH EMPHASIS on OB ?
Is this obsession a form of making us feel good about ourselves, or is to compare ourselves with others - which makes us feel good.
If it is that is very sad.
INNER BEAUTY is about thoughtfulness, kindness, gentle, caring, listening to others with problems. Sharing our time and if asked for advice give it unconditionally ( not expecting it to be followed ). IB lasts all one's life. It does not get wrinkles, it does not get fat. IB is a constant.
Someone of you might think this is too "philosophical" because you want SELF ESTEEM right now. This instant.
That desire is what they call INSTANT SELF GRATIFICATION.
We have instant coffee, instant money out of an ATM, instant internet access.....so why is it so hard to get INSTANT SELF ESTEEM?
I don't know. I just now it takes time.
Be well.