Leaning towards quiting

[LazyHermitCrab]

My current job. Today this person told me that the guys were talking and asked him why he even bothered talking to me, because I don't talk to anyone. I do greet people when I first get there though, so maybe he's just trying to start trouble? Or I think, he just talks to me because he feels bad for me. I try to talk sometimes but my words sound robotic, weak, and kid-like. Except to customers for the most part which is why they probably didn't fire me yet. I'm completely aware of things, yet I seem like i'm always "tired" which is the excuse i give myself. Although getting up at 5 is a good reason to be tired, everyone else is wide awake and socializing. It's so tempting just to quit this or look for another job and start again? It's sucks dealing with other things outside of work and then going to work for eight hours pretty much alone :: Sorry that this isn't positive, but not in a positive mood right now

 

[Chriiss]

I know exactly how you feel buddy. I start at 5 aswell.
I found when I started my job I was quiet and stand offish and now I've been working for 4 months and I'm exactly the same. I should be settled talking to people now, my collegues I just can't join in with the small talk. I think about quitting all the time but it's the only thing that gets me out the house.
But yee I know how you feel.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I know exactly how you feel buddy. I start at 5 aswell.
I found when I started my job I was quiet and stand offish and now I've been working for 4 months and I'm exactly the same. I should be settled talking to people now, my collegues I just can't join in with the small talk. I think about quitting all the time but it's the only thing that gets me out the house.
But yee I know how you feel.

Hmm been here for about four months too hah. After four months I thought it would have changed for the better, but guess not..

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Please don't quit! The people at another job might be the same and then it will be a waste.

I'm not sure if he wanted to hurt you or not. I think people say things like that because they think it will encourage you to try harder to be social. They don't understand it is quite mean and difficult.

People are usually offended by SA people because they think they are being snobby and refusing to communicate. Not true. At my old internship I was even too afraid to say "hello" to people. I tried to get to my desk and quickly as possible. They kept teasing me about it thinking I didn't want to hang out

Hopefully they will get tired of bothering you soon. Keep your head up and do your own thing.

Yea..good advice. I really wish some people could be more patient and understand by talking about someone when they're not around or teasing someone on the spot, isn't going to make someone suddenly open up....

 

[Richey]

Great thing about working in the IT field is that people tend to have a lot of empathy for all types of personalities, it's as if queiter people are expected but if you feel like talking a lot and having fun then that's fine as well, where as often a trade, factory, retail, hospitality job can be a bit more intense and you may be forced around people who are not on your wavelength.

In the IT sector nerdy + quiet + cool + fun + non judgemental seems to be a common attribute with staff.

something to think about, obviously many other sectors are also accepting to all types of people.

remember also that as people our personas can change as well. but it's vital that we all stay accepting of all sorts of people.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Great thing about working in the IT field is that people tend to have a lot of empathy for all types of personalities, it's as if queiter people are expected but if you feel like talking a lot and having fun then that's fine as well, where as often a trade, factory, retail, hospitality job can be a bit more intense and you may be forced around people who are not on your wavelength.



In the IT sector nerdy + quiet + cool + fun + non judgemental seems to be a common attribute with staff.

something to think about, obviously many other sectors are also accepting to all types of people.

remember also that as people our personas can change as well. but it's vital that we all stay accepting of all sorts of people.

I agree with this, the problem is I only took one computer class and i wouldn't qualify as a computer nerd are you in IT? if so i'm glad you found your way