Nacho
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A human being with social anxiety, sitting and kind of enjoying life. Can you imagine!? Well, that's me I'm talking about. A year ago I was down, depressed with my (social) life. Doing nothing almost every weekend! But things have changed since then. In fact, the entire year of 2011 was my personally best, but there's still one thing that bothers me. I will write what later.
Let me start out. A year ago I would be with one of my long-term friends or two in the weekends. Playing Xbox or whatever. So basically if they didn't have time I would just be sitting home at my parents house, where I lived, doing nothing. I felt pathetic, because this was my life for many, many years. I had no social life at all due to social phobia. Anyway, in the summer I got my first appartment with a very good location downtown. The appartment turned out to be my key! With that I have held so many "hangouts" with my friends, and my group of friends moved from 3 to almost 10 now. Almost every week at least once we are more than 5-6 people sitting, chillin' and so on. And these people are great to hang out with! We are like bros. I'm so happy they want to hang out at my place, with ME!
So, what's the problem? There's no big problem, but I keep thinking about having a girlfriend. My friends talk about girls a lot, and I hate to be sitting there hearing them when I can't do jack about it. I'm always afraid that they will ask me about (my) girls. This might not be a big issue, but I keep getting really depressed thinking about my single-life. I am a male, 25 years old - never had a girlfriend! Can you feel me? I just don't feel happy.
When I said 2011 was a good year, I meant it! That year I had my first date ever, and three in total. Unfortunately they didn't led to anything in the end. Also, I am cursed with a job where there are no girls at my age. I do go to parties when I'm invited, but that's not often - well at least I don't decline an invitation (I have been to a handful of parties last year, which is a ground-breaking-record for me!). I tried netdating for 8 months - I had some very good chats, but it only resulted in one real date. I have now cancelled my subscription there - I am tired of it. I want to try something new, but what???
PS. I'm really appreciating the good things in my life. So many good things has happend recently and may you all experience the same!
Let me start out. A year ago I would be with one of my long-term friends or two in the weekends. Playing Xbox or whatever. So basically if they didn't have time I would just be sitting home at my parents house, where I lived, doing nothing. I felt pathetic, because this was my life for many, many years. I had no social life at all due to social phobia. Anyway, in the summer I got my first appartment with a very good location downtown. The appartment turned out to be my key! With that I have held so many "hangouts" with my friends, and my group of friends moved from 3 to almost 10 now. Almost every week at least once we are more than 5-6 people sitting, chillin' and so on. And these people are great to hang out with! We are like bros. I'm so happy they want to hang out at my place, with ME!
So, what's the problem? There's no big problem, but I keep thinking about having a girlfriend. My friends talk about girls a lot, and I hate to be sitting there hearing them when I can't do jack about it. I'm always afraid that they will ask me about (my) girls. This might not be a big issue, but I keep getting really depressed thinking about my single-life. I am a male, 25 years old - never had a girlfriend! Can you feel me? I just don't feel happy.
When I said 2011 was a good year, I meant it! That year I had my first date ever, and three in total. Unfortunately they didn't led to anything in the end. Also, I am cursed with a job where there are no girls at my age. I do go to parties when I'm invited, but that's not often - well at least I don't decline an invitation (I have been to a handful of parties last year, which is a ground-breaking-record for me!). I tried netdating for 8 months - I had some very good chats, but it only resulted in one real date. I have now cancelled my subscription there - I am tired of it. I want to try something new, but what???
PS. I'm really appreciating the good things in my life. So many good things has happend recently and may you all experience the same!