kids

[alter_ego]

I was grocery shopping today and the lady behind me in the queue at the checkout had a little boy of about 2 years old with her. I couldn't help thinking that the poor little kid might well grow up to develop social anxiety when I overheard her say "Everyone's laughing at you".

I turned round to say hello to him and he was grinning away at me so I guess he's not too bad yet, but with with a Mum like that...

 

[dottie]

sometimes i see parents demeaning their children and think the same thing! omg how could they say that? that kid is going to have such bad social anxiety someday.

 

[shon]

A couple months ago I went to dinner with my family and there was a woman and her teenage daughter sitting at a table near ours. The entire time the mother was saying things like "Oh, you piss me off so much, I'm going to smack that mouth of yours off!" The girl sat there with her head down and this dark feeling (and anxiety) came over me. I felt like I was a humilitated teenager all over again. The mom just went on and on about how she wasn't going to let the girl go out that night. I don't know what the girl did wrong but that lady overreacted and seemed to enjoy making a fool of her daughter. I wished I could say something but of course I couldn't.

 

[Infected_Malignity]

I think a lot of people grow up with parents like this. I know being a parent probably isn't the easiest thing in the world, but I see a lot of parents doing a shitty job. All in all, everybody gets insulted/humiliated by their parents when they're young, there's no denying that. Also, everybody you'll ever talk to on the face of this planet has had a "bad childhood". It's so universal, it's not even funny.

 

[SilentStranger]

I sometimes wonder if some of these kids will turn up SPic too... but I suppose SPia is not a simple problem. It probably takes lot of causes, both environmental and genetic.

Yeah maybe if some of those kids are predisposed to SP, they might develop it because of their parents actions. Chances are, by looking at the number people who seem to be SPic, most kids wont. In fact they might be the ones who become bullys... as their turn their anger towards others.

-SS

 

[recluse]

I was grocery shopping today and the lady behind me in the queue at the checkout had a little boy of about 2 years old with her. I couldn't help thinking that the poor little kid might well grow up to develop social anxiety when I overheard her say "Everyone's laughing at you".

I turned round to say hello to him and he was grinning away at me so I guess he's not too bad yet, but with with a Mum like that...

I can relate. I blame a lot of my sa on my parents. My mother used to watch me talking on the phone and correct me because i was so nervous and made mistakes, beat up my older sister, beat me up for getting drunk, my dad comented on how fat i had become(before i lost weight) when i couldn't get a pair of jeans to fit to go to a kids party etc etc.

 

[IceLad]

I blame my parents a fair amount for causing SP. My mistakes interacting with people were always pointed out, and my appearance commented upon. In the end, I tried to do everything perfectly (which isn't the answer). If I heard a parent say that to their child, I would be concerned for them. Parents may think they're trying to be helpful, but they can have no idea over the lasting damage that can be inflicted with a constant barrage of comments like that.