just keep on drifting away...

[MothMan]

I don't get it. I have interacted with the same crowd for the past year with nary a feeling of anxiety past some slight insecurities but it is not until recently that I have become avoidant and reclusive when I'm around these people. Granted I have had two anxiety attacks (out of three) around both of the crowds I associate with but they were each a month ago. I just can't seem to shake it.

Has anyone else had a similar experience of turning from your 'friends'? I've joked, toked, drank and shot the sh*t with these people for so long and now when the whole gang gets together I get locked up in my dome and recede to my room for some sorry excuse. And thats with out smoking bud anymore. Nothing comes to mind to say so I just remove myself before my silence is noticed.

losing friends sucks

 

[MothMan]

i wish. I'm just as much of a subject to cowardice as my anxiety. plus I feel so inconsistent I don't even know what to tell them. Hell, half the time even my roommates, who are part of the same crowd and the people I interact with most, are enough to send me into hiding. When i do feel like I can be around, I don't want to dampen everything by laying something heavy like this down on them. not yet anyways. theres no way they don't notice, it just goes unspoken.

 

[Nack]

I think it just its part of growing up. You start to realize that everything have no reason at all. Or maybe that's just me...

 

[MothMan]

of course nothing has meaning but what we give it. thats the human way. unison hit it. the value I place on my interactions will determine if i'm willing to divulge a bit of myself to my roomies. uuhhhhhh

 

[Nack]

You know honestly, i don't remember what happen to me and my friends... Everything is a blank. :\

 

[MothMan]

thats what I see coming. I graduate this winter quarter with a degree in sociology and I feel like there will be no reason to keep contact after that. I just hope I can make more of what will be instead of clinging to what was (is).

 

[Nack]

thats what I see coming. I graduate this winter quarter with a degree in sociology and I feel like there will be no reason to keep contact after that. I just hope I can make more of what will be instead of clinging to what was (is).

I also see no reason for a degree. I mean all it is is a paper stating your degree. That's it... But society says its important so...If you can't beat them joined them right?

 

[Hellhound]

What if you tell your friends about your situation? If they are good friends, they will understand. And it might be helpful to you... I think.

 

[chained]

i have known these friends for like 3 years, and I just drift away, have nothing to say... r not alone, the hardest part is them noticing

 

[releaseme]

MothMan...Unison has some good advice. if they are your true friends, they will understand. if not, then you'll have your answer as to why this is happening. that being, you're growing away from them.

many years ago, (before the internet) i too went through the similar thing you describe happening to you. I dont know those people today, but also, i never had the courage to approach them and say anything...it was easier for me to deal with by just walking away. looking back on that, that was a mistake.

if it bothers you this much and you consider them friends...say something before your anxiety brings the loss your friends.

 

[Hellhound]

i have known these friends for like 3 years, and I just drift away, have nothing to say... r not alone, the hardest part is them noticing

If you are away, they might think that you are busy or something. These things are not too easy to notice unless any of your friends suffer from it. And still, not even in that case it's guaranteed that they will notice something wrong.
The best thing is to try and talk. I repeat, if they are your good friends, they will understand you. Avoiding is not a very wise idea and will lead you nowhere. The more you hide, the harder it will be to overcome your problems.

 

[chained]

If you are away, they might think that you are busy or something. These things are not too easy to notice unless any of your friends suffer from it. And still, not even in that case it's guaranteed that they will notice something wrong.
The best thing is to try and talk. I repeat, if they are your good friends, they will understand you. Avoiding is not a very wise idea and will lead you nowhere. The more you hide, the harder it will be to overcome your problems.

actually I don't avoid, I try talking as much as possible and going out.. but it doesn't help.. I guess one is a pretty good friend