Is this is a good thing?

[Thatjusthurts]

Ok, I am 18 and I play Xbox 360 alot. I met a girl on it, I like her. Shes cool, she acts like an immature 18 year old(which I love). I know what she looks like, but she dont even know what I look like. She will soon, but she says she likes me without knowing what I look like. Neither of us are perfect, I love that.

The problem, she said she is 13. She looks atleast 16, shes smarter then an average 16 year old to(knows German). She even talks like somebody few years older. She talks\acts dirty(masturbation,ect.)alot to, somthing you wouldnt think a 13 year old would talk about or do. I believe her that she says shes 13, why would she lie. I mean every single thing about her is few years older. She even jokes about me going to meet her, she was gonna with an ex, but they broke up. I told her I wouldnt even go near her at that age, if I had to I would wait 5 years. Shes got a bunch of problems, just like me, I like that.

What should I do? I really do like her.

 

[Remus]

sounds like trouble to me

 

[Raynor]

Ok, I am 18 and I play Xbox 360 alot. I met a girl on it, I like her. Shes cool, she acts like an immature 18 year old(which I love). I know what she looks like, but she dont even know what I look like. She will soon, but she says she likes me without knowing what I look like. Neither of us are perfect, I love that.

The problem, she said she is 13. She looks atleast 16, shes smarter then an average 16 year old to(knows German). She even talks like somebody few years older. She talks\acts dirty(masturbation,ect.)alot to, somthing you wouldnt think a 13 year old would talk about or do. I believe her that she says shes 13, why would she lie. I mean every single thing about her is few years older. She even jokes about me going to meet her, she was gonna with an ex, but they broke up. I told her I wouldnt even go near her at that age, if I had to I would wait 5 years. Shes got a bunch of problems, just like me, I like that.

What should I do? I really do like her.

 

[ioanna]

the guestion is can 2 people with same fears be together?because i think the other will understand but how will they live?

 

[Thatjusthurts]

the guestion is can 2 people with same fears be together?because i think the other will understand but how will they live?

Well she doesnt have social phobia. I also don't see much of a problem, I wouldn't go near her at that age, 5 years sure. My mom is 41 and step dad is like 30. Why would 18 and 23 be bad? If not later.

 

[ioanna]

i dont think its a problem then.

 

[miss_amy]

I think theres a problem now.

If you are 18 and shes 13 then you really shouldnt engage in that sort of talk with her, however mature she seems. You are the adult here and its up to you to be the responsible one. Its you that will get in to trouble for that kind of behaviour, even i you just let her talk that way. I have 12 year old daughter and your post sends shivers through me. Dont even go there.

Can't compare the 18 to 23 thing, those ages are both adult. Its not the age gap thats the problem here, its her being a child and inappropriate talking.

 

[Thatjusthurts]

The thing is, I dont engage that kind of talk, she does, every single time. If anything, shes gonna come where I live and rape me. Don't think you understand what I mean by that. Several hours ago, she asked me if I wanted to watch porn, shes sending me links to it. In fact she usualy will reveal herself sexualy on cam, usualy to random people. She says its role playing, shes using them. I have a friend, made fun of me for liking her, same age as me. But when she saw her talk and how she talks, and what she does(go on cam), he literaly said he loved her that same day. Of course knowing her she does go in a cam with them, my friends, which kinda annoys me. That is using a 13 year old, I knew her 2 months before SHE asked me out. One of them say "wow your pretty, what about that VC?!?!?!(VC= video chat) on her myspace comments. They use her, I don't. Few days before she asked me out, I deleted her from my friends list, tired of her doing that shit. I tried to help her(her bf used her for 8 months then just deletes her), so she don't get used anymore. So i gave up and deleted her, but she convinced me to come back. She says, shes using them, as role playing. In fact, thats what im afraid i might be.

So now does your 12 year old ask nearly random people to see her on a cam(you know)? Does she sit there, chatting, then yell out shes masturbating, or send porn links? For some reason, she always talks about getting a sex change to. To be honest, she is probably smarter then me to.

 

[Lexmark]

What ya gamer tag ?
How you know for sure its a girl ?
If they look like a woman then age i couldnt care less about but having said that at 13.........i would stay away

 

[miss_amy]

My 12 year old most certainly does not do any of those things because for one at that age she does not have a web cam and she has parents who give a damn about whats shes up to and keep an eye out. She is also taught to respect herself and about the dangers of the internet.

I think this girl is trouble.. I think you should stay away. For your own sake.

She doesnt sound mature to me, she sounds like a very silly little girl with obviously no adult guidance in her life and one day shes going to end up with the wrong guys.

 

[Thatjusthurts]

Thats the thing, im usualy trying to help her stop that stuff. But she always says shes bored when she does it, her parents don't seem to be around that much either. She acts immature as in what an older person would act(15-20), joking about sexual stuff, doing sexual stuff, saying bad stuff(puts herself down alot). A normal immature 13 year old would probably be completely different. She is taller then a normal 13 year old, physicly matured more then a 13 year old should(if you know what I mean). She says her voice is even deeper then a normal girl in general(sounds different on Xbox Live). That is one reason why she will call herself a guy somtimes. She has seperate accounts she role plays on, pretends she is a guy and chats to people. No, she is not a guy, I know.

It seems like somthing happened to her, probably not long ago. Shes got pictures with friends all happy, but now she looks completely different. Like sombody who got depressed all of a sudden and just stopped caring about thereselves. She told me she got abused before, but I think that was a few years ago, this seems like it happened around a year ago. Unless that was what made her get depressed.

 

[miss_amy]

Thats really sad. Not sure what you can do to help her really. I dont think your approach will work.
If you want to do anything maybe get someone official involved. That's what I would do, call social services and get her home life looked at.

 

[Thatjusthurts]

Im sure its fine, she plays a guitar, can write and read German, and has a new cat. Her last cat kinda ran away and never came back, I have a cat myself I have known for several years, she must have been really sad from that, can't imagine. Couldn't imagine losing mine, only friend I really got. I would rather not trouble her with more shit. The things she does she will have alot of guys taking advantage of her, trying to be her boy friend just to see her in cam. Hurt her like her last boy friend.

I love her personality when shes not trying to be funny or anything, we got bunch in common, I don't see what harm I could do to her. From the mistakes I made I can make sure she don't do any of them. Plus after the next 3 years she will probably be used by so many guys she will just give up. Don't like saying this, but she said she thought about killing herself when she got abused. She said she don't like anybody where she lives, only had her boy friends on the internet. Im sure ill be a better influence in her life then a bunch of random people she meets on xbox live that are near her same age that only wants to see her cam. I have a bad feeling she won't even want me that long. Better then a year with jerks. Would make me feel better.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1vkjOvD-zs Funny.

 

[sabbath92003]

Jailbait