People find our problems hard to deal with. I know this by experience, and to tell the truth, I wish I had kept my mental issues secret. I just thought that if I told the truth, got it all out, that I would feel better, but this wasn't the case.
I don't think my friends "got off" on my sadness. One friend was uncomfortable and didn't want to talk about it. Another friend didn't know what to say, but tried her best to appear sympathetic.
Neither of them understood. Here's the thing. If you haven't experienced it, there is no way to understand. That's why we get upset, because we feel alone. We pour our souls to people we trust and their reactions are substandard because they have nothing to relate it too.
steve1, I think if your friends were purposely cruel to you, then their negative influence is no good. But if they just didn't understand or were uncomfortable, it's not really their fault.
I think about that too, looking for people "more like me". That's why this site is great, because all of us understand. There's nothing wrong with keeping old friends and branching out a little, though. But this can be difficult for those of us with social phobia, so take it slow.