cadaver_
Well-known member
We all know that social phobics have irrational thoughts about themselves and the world, but have you ever had any of these thoughts turn out to be not so irrational?
When I worked in a kitchen a number of years ago, we had to wear a ball cap at all times (in place of hair nets). I always wore mine the typical way because I thought I would look like I'm "trying" to be cool if I wore it backwards like some of them did. Then one day I thought: "Why do I think I'd stand out if did this? Other guys here wear them backwards. I'm just being irrational about this." Then the day I wore the hat backwards I was immediately made fun of. Someone even said I was trying to look cool - exactly what I thought they would say. So much for irrationality.
And just recently I had a friend who eventually became a f**k buddy. I'm 32, never dated, never had sex, so this was a BIG deal for me. The closest thing to a relationship I've ever had. It was going well but I was haunted by the negative thought that this was too good to be true and was going to end without warning. Again, I thought that this was just me being irrational and forgot about it. Guess what happened? All of a sudden I wasn't getting any e-mails or phone messages returned for weeks. I didn't know why because we never had an argument or a bad word spoken between us. EVER. He's still on MSN from time to time so I know he didn't die or something. Just decided he'd had enough of me I guess. Again, irrational thoughts do come true : (
Anyone have similar experiences with the irrational becoming a reality?
When I worked in a kitchen a number of years ago, we had to wear a ball cap at all times (in place of hair nets). I always wore mine the typical way because I thought I would look like I'm "trying" to be cool if I wore it backwards like some of them did. Then one day I thought: "Why do I think I'd stand out if did this? Other guys here wear them backwards. I'm just being irrational about this." Then the day I wore the hat backwards I was immediately made fun of. Someone even said I was trying to look cool - exactly what I thought they would say. So much for irrationality.
And just recently I had a friend who eventually became a f**k buddy. I'm 32, never dated, never had sex, so this was a BIG deal for me. The closest thing to a relationship I've ever had. It was going well but I was haunted by the negative thought that this was too good to be true and was going to end without warning. Again, I thought that this was just me being irrational and forgot about it. Guess what happened? All of a sudden I wasn't getting any e-mails or phone messages returned for weeks. I didn't know why because we never had an argument or a bad word spoken between us. EVER. He's still on MSN from time to time so I know he didn't die or something. Just decided he'd had enough of me I guess. Again, irrational thoughts do come true : (
Anyone have similar experiences with the irrational becoming a reality?