I'm spending new years eve in Poland

[recluse]

For the first time in my life i am actually leaving the house on new years eve. My friend in Poland invited me over there so i am going tomorrow and spending 4 days there. She mentioned that we are going to a concert in the centre of Krakow. I'm nervous because it's my first time ever i am doing something on new years eve. I actually don't know how i am supposed to act i mean am i supposed to put on an act and be all cheerfull o'r just be my self?

What's everyone doing on new years eve?

Happy new year to you all in advance

 

[tuxtux]

What concert are you going to?

Hmm last year we ended up at a dorm party, and most people didn't act overly cheerful if they weren't. I'd say just be yourself. No one forces you to giggle and act happy all the time if you aren't - if you aren't a very good actor it will show anyway. Does your friend know about your SA?
Just try to enjoy yourself at the concert and have fun. If you like the music that shouldn't be too difficult.
New year's isn't really any different from other social occasions/parties/whatever, except for - at least here - the standing outside to watch the fireworks, the sparkling wine and the "happy new year" wishes at 0:00. Act like you'd act at any concert you'd go to at a different time of the year.

 

[recluse]

It's going to be my third visit there. I don't know what kind of concert it's going to be i imagine some Polish folk music o'r something. She doesn't know i am social phobic; I'm too afraid to tell her! She's told me that she's a loner anyway so that makes me feel a bit better.

 

[getbornagain]

I've been to Poland. If you're partying there on New Year's Eve expect to cross paths with Vodka. Alot of Vodka.

 

[lonely_world]

Good for you, just be you and hope all goes well. And if it doesn't, atleast you tried!

 

[recluse]

My New years eve in Poland

Happy new year to you all, and i wish you all the best in 2009.
Day 1-

I'll just tell you how it went. I got a plane to Krakow on New years eve, found my hotel and went to meet my friend in the city centre where the celebrations were. We went for a meal first then went to the concert. In truth i think i screwed up the whole evening because i was so boring. The meal went fine and we had a pleasant chat but being in the middle of drunk, loud and happy people i felt like a fish out of water. I think i was the only person there who wasn't cheering when the fireworks went off. My friend asked me why i was so sad. It's just that i am such an introverted person i don't show my feelings much. Wehugged and kissed each other on the cheeks but i spent the rest of the evening feeling guilty for beig so boring and screwing up her night. She couldn't get a train home as it was too late so she slept in my hotel room. Perhaps if i would have been drunk i would have been more fun, but she's teetotal so i didn't want to do that.

Day 2-

We got up early and got a train to her home city which is two hours away from Krakow. I still felt boring for being such a party pooper the night before. I met her mother and grandmother for the first time and they made me a meal which was very nice. Everything was going well by now....Untill she showed me her room and turned on her computer...On to the screen popped the picture of a good looking guy from Australia who is a pilot, which she has as her wallpaper....Evening ruined, i felt my heart sink...I mean how can i compete with a good looking pilot...Kind ofmakes me feel inadequete I spent the rest of the night feeling depressed, couldn't sleep after seeing the picture of this guy on her computer.

Day 3-

I went to her home city alone on the train to meet her again. Felt depressed but felt proud for asking for the train ticket in Polish :wink:
Got to her waiting for me at the train station, felt happy to see her again but still depressed over this other guy. We had a pleasant day and the conversation went well. At the station whe hugged my tightly for a loong time to say goodbye.

Day 4-

Checked out of my hotel. Did some souveneir shopping at Krakow alone, got my train to the airport and home.

So in short i'm really happy but also depressed, and i am obsessing that she has this guys pic as her wallpaper. Maybe i am not made to be loved by any girl? Who knows :? I mean she shows signs that there's feelings there like touchingmy arm o'r stroking my hair, but now i have turned to my paranoid depressive self.

Got up

 

[Sacrament]

Why did you assume she had no one to a point where you get really depressed over it? You're not even from the same country as she is.

 

[Argamemnon]

Congratulations, I couldn't do any of those things.