I'm introvert, quiet stupid.

[Falkor]

I always want to come across nice and happy, but I come across as a introvert , quiet, stupid girl.

That's my fear, and there it became real. I really really really don't like it. It's not the behaviour that ppl like. I think I'm a robot.

how should I change it?

 

[truffleshuffle]

Its hard to change I know I was there, its diffren;t for everyone but for me I had to go out to places I was a bit uncomfortable with and start talking to people. It helped alot I am still uncomfortable to a degree and probably will always be and have my anxiaty but its not as hard to do as it once was and I don;t flip out most of the time.

 

[jaim38]

I feel this way a lot too, but I don't think I'm stupid all the time. I can slip up in front of people but I do well when I'm alone. Instead of hating myself, I have slowly come to accept myself for who I am because I can't change the way I am.

 

[Falkor]

You may be an introvert, you may be quiet, but you're not stupid. Maybe you feel as though you are because you can't relate to others as well, or it may affect you in school, but its usually those who don't know they're "stupid" that are. You're young and should be able to change the direction of your troubles. Therapy/counseling might help, although I know for me its a non-starter because I don't like to talk about my problems to strangers, and anyway there is nothing they can tell me or suggest, that I don't already know. Take it day by day and try not to think of it as a long term thing. Once you give in to it, it only gets worse, so don't. Everyone lives life differently, and you shouldn't base yours on just those around you because of it. Get youself a hobby. Maybe indoor growing of plants/flowers that give a challenge, or just anything you like to focus some time and attention on. Good luck to you!

Thanks for your answer. Your tips are very helpful. And indoor growing of plants sounds like a good idea. Never thought of it. Yeah, distraction is a good thing. I am looking for new hobbies. Maybe join a fitness facility. Don't know yet. Anyways, thank you, your right, not giving into it, will make it become easier, all though I should really learn that trick hehe

 

[Azunyan]

Exposure helped me. I ended up in a job meeting a lot of new people, at first it was hell but now its pretty fine. Only thing left to improve is everything non-work related >.>
Also, people think of you as you think of yourself. If you think you are quiet and introverted you may unknowingly give off these signals.
Usually its not as bad as oneself might think.

 

[Jesus89]

I think you should deal it in a quite natural way. Don't try to be polite if you
can't do it at the moment.
and try to make better relation well feeling good!