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Let_It_Go

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I didn't know where to post this, But i think it's more social anxiety than depression ( i have both) ::(: so sorry if it's in the wrong place.

- Lately i've been feeling alot more nervous and more worried when i'm outside of my house..instead of improving im getting worse - I was at the store today and when i was at the checkout there was this nice friendly person and i was abit shaky and never one made eye contact with them and then just grabbed my bag and got out of the shop really quickly...

i just feel so awkward around other people and trusting them...i haven't seen my mental health psychiatrist? in months..its like they only care about the money than helping someone out.

I hate feeling like this..sometimes i can make eye contact and not feel so nervous then now i just feel ew ::(:

Help please!
 
AsTimeBurns

AsTimeBurns

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I'm afraid this is all the help I can come up with for now:

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Maybe someone else has some advice they can share with you. I'm not very good at it really, sorry.
 
X-Rated

X-Rated

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Let_It_Go said:
I didn't know where to post this, But i think it's more social anxiety than depression ( i have both) ::(: so sorry if it's in the wrong place.

- Lately i've been feeling alot more nervous and more worried when i'm outside of my house..instead of improving im getting worse - I was at the store today and when i was at the checkout there was this nice friendly person and i was abit shaky and never one made eye contact with them and then just grabbed my bag and got out of the shop really quickly...

i just feel so awkward around other people and trusting them...i haven't seen my mental health psychiatrist? in months..its like they only care about the money than helping someone out.

I hate feeling like this..sometimes i can make eye contact and not feel so nervous then now i just feel ew ::(:

Help please!
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I also have trouble trusting people mainly because i`ve been backstabbed many times.
In regard to your problem, when I was younger I also felt awkard in crowded places but then I realized I had no reason to , because they were strangers, whom i would probably never see again.
 
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Feathers

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Hey Let_It_Go, there will be good days and bad days... feel proud for the good days.. when you have a bad day, give yourself a break, RELAX, other people probably didn't even notice it or didn't think it was so important.. maybe they liked you even though you were nervous or such? They maybe thought, 'Who is this mysterious cute stranger?'

You don't have to socialize in shops, you know.. and if he was a friendly person, maybe he'll be there again and maybe will be friendly again?

Trust comes with time, people need to earn it.. It's okay to not trust strangers at first, it's good to give them a chance to get to know them though.. Maybe next time, or with someone else.. You could prepare a 'strategy' maybe?

Hope things get better... Have you had CBT or such yet? There are some good books out there, see what your library has.. (or check on Amazon?)
 
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Feathers

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Okay, this is a good book then: The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David Burns - it's good against depression or negative thoughts or such. Gives basic introduction of CBT, some online said it better explains things than their therapist. :)

For social anxiety this is good: Meeting People Is Fun by Phyllis M Shaw or How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Check your library.. :)
Both show that mostly other people don't even notice what we do or think, they're too wrapped up in what they are thinking.. :)

For meeting guys, I gave you some more tips in your other thread. I'd definitely not be comfortable in a store lol! Or at a checkout line.. Bonus for you, if that person looked friendly!

It depends what kind of counsellor you have too, do they specialize in sa/depression or not really, what kind of approach they have.. Some people saw two, three or more, to find someone they 'clicked' with.. For me, books were very helpful, and also observing other people, like roommates/flatmates or friends.. You can learn a lot that way..
 
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