I need some advice... please help!

[Rise Against]

There is this girl at school that i really want to get to know and be friends with. I know she is interested in me but we have had two really awkward moments together... The first awkward moment was when she had her friend introduce her to me and told me that she was single, i was so surprised that i froze up and couldn't think straight so i just sat there and kind of ignored her ::, i think she got frustrated because she left. About a week later she and her friend invited me to eat lunch with them because i was sitting by my self... once again i froze up and didn't speak the whole lunch. About two weeks ago she started dating a guy (i guess i blew my chances) but thats ok because i just want to be friends anyways since im going to graduate in a couple months. Even though she is in a relationship with another guy i still feel like she wants to get to know me because we make eye contact a lot (like 10+ times a day) and i always see her looking at me from across the room. Ive started taking lexapro and feel much more confident and talkative now so i have tried to start conversations with her, but they don't really go anywhere. I always get a positive response when i ask her a question but she is quiet around me (but she is very outgoing around everyone else). Is she intimidated by me? Did the two awkward moments and bad first impressions ruin any chances of a friendship? Should i continue to ask her questions until she feels more comfortable around me?

 

[kayelle]

I think you should keep talking to her. Maybe she got a bad first impression of you. So if you just stop talking to her now, then she'll keep the same impression of you. If you keep talking to her, then she can form a new impression of you, and you guys can become friends.
Also, since you're feeling more confident now, this is the perfect chance to grab that opportunity to get into those social situations!
So you can both change that impression she has of you, if she does have that impression, and have a chance to try some new things...so I say go for it! Good luck, let us know how you get on

 

[Rise Against]

should i try the same old "small talk" or should i step it up a notch and try teasing her or something to make it look like im really interested in her and not just asking a question. Or would teasing just make things more awkward since she is dating someone else.

 

[kayelle]

Well since she is still quiet around you, maybe try the small talk some more? I really don't know, I have no experience with these things really! I have a boyfriend, and I talked to him lots before I tried to flirt with him or anything. We just got to be good friends first, and I really liked it that way!
I guess it completely depends on your feelings at the time! Maybe there'll be a time when it feels right to flirt with her, maybe she'll say something...
If it was me, I'd go with small talk and look for a chance from her to be a bit flirty, take the lead from her a little bit...since she's outgoing around other people, maybe once she's comfortable around you again she'll start being more outgoing around you, and then you can do the same!
Sorry, I hope I'm not rambling and making no sense ::

 

[Rise Against]

I think ill wait until the next time we make eye contact ill try to start a more interesting conversation, instead of the same old, simple, boring conversations. Maybe ill ask her about her other classes or something a little more interesting.

 

[Rise Against]

I know I'm probably analyzing every little detail way too much, but today we made eye contact about 5 times, but i was to scared to start a conversation today... Well anyways at track practice i was practicing high jump and she was walking by and i forced myself to make eye contact and smile at her and she smiled back and said "good job" and gave me a high five. I know im making this into a bigger deal than it really is, but that made my day.

 

[SickJoke]

I know I'm probably analyzing every little detail way too much, but today we made eye contact about 5 times, but i was to scared to start a conversation today... Well anyways at track practice i was practicing high jump and she was walking by and i forced myself to make eye contact and smile at her and she smiled back and said "good job" and gave me a high five. I know im making this into a bigger deal than it really is, but that made my day.

Hey that's awesome, good job man! See what happens when you push yourself? You get rewarded for it. Even if it's as simple as forcing a smile and getting a high five and a smile in return

 

[Rise Against]

I think it will be MUCH easier to approach her now that i know she still notices me. lol