I have to stop hiding from the world

[whos_that_girl]

If there is anyone that lives a totally ridiculous way of living, it is me. Because I have spent so many years being so uncomfortable around people in any social situation, now I psyche myself into thinking I hate everyone and I always want to be alone. Is anyone else like this too? I mean I can literally go for days without talking to a single person, but it doesn't mean that it doesn't bother me because it really does.

 

[tommydog]

I dont hate everyone but I wouldnt say I have a positive view on humanity overall. I try as best I can to give people a chance theres alot of good people out there.

I gotta stop hiding from the world too. Im doing really well with my anxiety im not even sure if you could call it that anymore, I probably do still have it its hard to say, but I think now its more bieng anti social for so long I seem lacking in the ability to relate to people now. Thats what happens I guess so thats an after effect you have to look forward to when you beat the anxiety Lol !!

Hehe. No but this is just practice now you know im sure. Just getting out more and talking to people more, but avoiding others isnt going to get me anywhere.

 

[Smokeringz]

ya man, i used to go for weeks hiding in my house. I decided i would take baby steps to recovery. I started going to the gym about 2-3 days a week for about an hour. Now three months later Im going to the gym 5 days a week and school 3. I also take a walk everyday.
My advice would be to get outside everyday if you can, just take a short walk around the neibourhood if your feeling like shit.

 

[kuze]

im the same, sometimes i try to make it look like ppl annoy me, but in reality i want to be with them. Its like the only thing you can do to save face, even if its internally.

 

[danstelter]

Another thing to remember is that mainstream is very chaotic and has its priorities placed in the wrong places...meaning that people and relationships with others are not valued (unless speaking in a sexual sense). Getting out there is a good thing to do, but for the socially anxious, including myself, I found it easier to make friends and relate to people who valued people and these people I found when volunteering for various humanitarian organizations. I also tried church groups and various other community meetings and ended up making a few decent friends. Keeping giving people chances because that is the only way you'll ever make friends. Most things won't work out, but a few do, which makes all the time spent looking to make friends worthwhile.

 

[powerfulthoughts]

Hiding from the world/people will only keep a person imprisoned. In order to learn and grow, you have to try rather than hide. But the biggest thing you have to learn to do is EMBRACE mistakes. That means not taking the things you do wrong to heart. It's the anxiety and inexperience that makes the situation hard. If you blame yourself as a person, telling yourself "I'm such an idiot, loser" etc., then you are just compounding the problem.

When you learn to drive, you have to accept you won't be perfect right away. That's the same with anything you start to learn. Babies embrace and accept mistakes when learning how to walk. We embrace mistakes when we are learning how to ride a bike. We also must accept failure. Failure is a precursor to success. Michael Jordan missed the vast majority of his shots. Barry Bonds failed over 70% of the time he was up to bat. But eventually, we learn from our failures and we grow. We hit the ball out of the park, we ride the bike and drive the car, because we accepted the failures and grew from the mistakes. Had Bonds just said "I can't bear the thought of striking out so I won't even go to bat" then he misses out and never becomes a good ball player.

Eventually, we will become numb to failure, and be free to enjoy the successes. We can feel good knowing that life only brings growth. Keep trying, and keep learning from your past mistakes, and eventually you WILL become a good socializer.

 

[Ashiene]

The problem is not with people. The problem is with society. It's a huge propaganda machine.