I feel like all of my friends hate me

[sarah1234]

My whole life I have had trouble with people whether they were actually being mean to me or they just didn't like me. When i started high school about two years ago I got a fresh start and made a ton of new friends who i felt really liked me. Until about six months ago. None of them ever want to hang out with me whenever I ask them to do something they either don't respond or they make up some excuse like they are sick or have a family thing. But I know they are lying because i see pictures on instagram and snapchat of them all hanging out together. I don't no what I did to make them not like me but i feel so alone. Has anyone ever had an experience like this before? What did you do to change it?

P.s. please don't just tell me to make new friends that wont work.

 

[Lavinialuna]

I have felt left out..a lot. I am complicated, and not everyone gets that.
People let you down, and it hurts...I guess I have no advice for how to keep the friends you have other than to just be yourself and if they don't like you, they aren't the one's for you.
On a brighter note keep in mind that life outside of high school is so much better, it's not a fashion show every day, or who is dating who. No pressure to keep up with the herd. Being a kid is really hard, but hang in there, you're getting older

 

[swissa]

It happened to me all the time. I literally just stopped trying to make plans and starting relying on myself for entertainment to avoid disappointment. I know it's a terrible feeling to be left out and lied to - but try to fulfill yourself and accomplish something to boost your spirits while you have time for yourself

 

[theoutsider]

It happened to me all the time. I literally just stopped trying to make plans and starting relying on myself for entertainment to avoid disappointment. I know it's a terrible feeling to be left out and lied to - but try to fulfill yourself and accomplish something to boost your spirits while you have time for yourself

I totally agree with this. You have to learn to get along well with yourself and not depend on others for your happiness.

 

[sarah1234]

I have felt left out..a lot. I am complicated, and not everyone gets that.
People let you down, and it hurts...I guess I have no advice for how to keep the friends you have other than to just be yourself and if they don't like you, they aren't the one's for you.
On a brighter note keep in mind that life outside of high school is so much better, it's not a fashion show every day, or who is dating who. No pressure to keep up with the herd. Being a kid is really hard, but hang in there, you're getting older

I know that life is different after high school but its just really hard because I have a lot of days when i feel like it will never get better even though I know it will.
And the part about being myself I feel like for so many years i have tried to change myself to make new friends and keep the ones I have, that I don't even know how to be myself anymore.

 

[theoutsider]

I know you said to please don't tell you to find new friends because that won't work. I won't do that but you have to ask yourself this: If the "friends" you currently have all tell you lies so they won't have to hang out with you, are they really friends?