I feel hopeless at giving advice

[recluse]

My friend contacted me earlier because she is worried about something, and i just feel so useless. Whenever someone is in need of support and advice i feel like i am on the spot and i can't be of any help to them. I just feel so useless, i just don't know what to say in these situations, and i don't really have any life experience so i can't give advice.

 

[gobbledegook]

I am like that too. when I try my best to help... I feel that person thinks I am telling them lies or something :? I really like to help people but I don't know if my advice is enough. As you say, I feel stupid saying things that I have no life experience in.

 

[miss_amy]

I think being there and understanding is enough. You don't always have to give advice, just be a friendly ear.

 

[Barnum]

It's obvious that obsessing over giving good advice makes it harder to concentrate about actually giving good advice. My advice is, don't make such a big deal about it.

But then, my advice is affected by SA too. 8O

Just remember that no-one expects you to do more than be there for your friends and do your best without getting anyone killed.

 

[CPA23]

For some reason, people often come to me with their problems. I know what to say most of the time, but I feel like I would be telling them what to do! When I give advice, I feel like I am bossing them around, but that is certainly not the case. Even though I have SA, I still have learned a lot about life and life's ups and downs. I actually should give advice more often.