"I don't think you exist"

[Ky]

Someone sent that exact line in my honesty box yesterday on Facebook. At first I was wondering what it could mean. The first thing that came to my mind was that it was a joke. Someone was trying to be funny...But, I thought about it, and it probably wasn't a joke at all! I'm sure to some people I just walk through the hallways at school and only talk to my closest friends. They don't know me at all and I probably don't exist to them. When I think about my high school reunion in 10 years and how much I want to go...who would I go to see? Surely none of the people there would want to see what the girl who doesn't exist is doing with her life! I know high school isn't important in the big scheme of things, but what if this continues throughout the rest of my life? What if I just float through life not making any connections with anyone? I wan't to experience everything life has...the good and the bad! I feel like I'm not experiencing anything at the moment. I'm sure plenty of people feel this way! Care to explain how you feel?

 

[wherecaringhappens]

I'm really sorry to hear that Ky ...

I know how that feels, and I'm sure that if I got the honesty box on my facebook I would probably get something like that too. For me, it just seemed like others who had me as a friend valued me the least out of all their friends, and so it really didn't make me feel like I had friends at all. My "friends" would only talk to me if they had no one else to talk to and their other friends were not around. In a group of friends, I would become invisible.
So I see what you mean and for me too it seemed like I didn't exist. Right now I'm in college and I realize that the only way for me to be valued by my friends is to make a name for myself, doing things, making things happen, helping friends out, whatever.


As far as your situation, this is what I feel:

I want you to know one thing, that you do exist and you are valued here. I also want you to know that whatever you share here, whether it be about your life experiences, asking questions, anything else you want to share, you will not be ignored! You are also welcome to PM me and talk to me on AIM, Yahoo Messenger, or on the mini-messenger on this site, so nice to meet you!

 

[Day_Tripper]

People with low self esteem shouldn't have an honesty box, period.

 

[Helyna]

Who would SAY something like that, even in an honesty box?!

 

[Elad]

hihi

Also, that person sounds like a real dickhead.

 

[JonnyD]

Re: hihi

shal kek nem rom! 8O

seriosly i don't understand why somebody would write this, maybe you should ask what that means... to me is more like a existencialist thing or a confession of schisofrenia

 

[Ky]

I love honesty box...to be honest. Most of the time people just say 'you're a nice person' or 'you're pretty' but nobody would ever tell you in person that you don't exist. It got me thinking, so I don't think it's a bad thing.

I was also thinking...possibly the person who wrote it was high? It's really not surprising for the people at my school. :roll:

And thanks wherecaringhappens...it's really nice to hear that!

Oh, and I asked them 'what do you mean by that?' and they haven't responded back yet...and probably won't.

 

[Day_Tripper]

And I dunno if it's just me, but that expanding dude seriously does something to my head, lol

 

[freestylemonster]

I always wondered if there was a reason to go to my highschool reunion for the same reason...Nobody would remember me!

I'm sure I'll be done with SA by then and I'll show up with my supermodel wife and be the life of the party bein like "HEY!! Remember me?? I was the really quiet guy with the crazy last name!! I remember you!!!!"

 

[Kamen]

This piece of cosmic dust has no idea how right he is, if we consider some of the views about reality. In this case, we all don't exist. He doesn't exist, too. It's all an illusion, a play of one universal mind that creates everything and pretends to be different creatures and things.

 

[colourscolours]

I'm really sorry to hear that Ky ...

For me, it just seemed like others who had me as a friend valued me the least out of all their friends, and so it really didn't make me feel like I had friends at all. My "friends" would only talk to me if they had no one else to talk to and their other friends were not around. In a group of friends, I would become invisible.

that is so true for me.i had this friend who always go to dinner late and because of that she had no one to go with other than me who is her roommate who wouldn't mind going late.and i never whine or do anything that says i am pissed off.i actually didn't care about it.there was this time that i woke up late for breakfast.i asked her to wait for me.there was about an hour till breakfast hour is over and we don't have morning classes on that day and neither did she want to go anywhere after breakfast.as i was preparing,fast i heard her screaming for me in an irritating manner.and as i was slipping on my sandals she left me and ran up to our two friends.she didn't even wait or glance back to see if i managed to catch up or not.there was another occasion where my friend needed to finish her assignment so she asked if i could wait.i did.and we were on our away back when three of our friends joined us.the path that we walked upon would only allow four people to walk side by side.i was left out and had to walk alone behind the four of them.i was surprised that the friend that i waited for didn't even bother to walk beside me.and at the time there was a group of people behind me.i was so conscious since i was walking alone behind all of them without being paid any attention.

 

[JonnyD]

I always wondered if there was a reason to go to my highschool reunion for the same reason...Nobody would remember me!

the question is, would you remember?

 

[coriander1992]

Nobody exists.