I don't like being told off

[worrywort]

ok, I know this is pretty childish, but does anyone else still really hate being told off?! I know I'm an adult and should be able to deal with this stuff by now but I just hate it when people get angry at me.

Some random old man just had a massive go at me for cycling on the pavement! He was fuming! He goes "this isn't a bl***y cycle path, get on the road!". Usually if I know I'm in the right I can just ignore people like this but annoyingly I know he was right in this instance. It's illegal to cycle on the paths. I do it just cause it's so much safer and I end up holding up tons of traffic on the roads otherwise and make all the drivers angry.

argh, I wish it didn't bother me so much, but to be honest I'm dreading bumping into that guy again now.

how do you guys deal with being told off? anyone get told off a lot? I can usually rise above it if I feel that I'm in the right, but it's just those times when I'm either unsure or definitely in the wrong that it hits me a lot harder and I start feeling a lot more guilty.

 

[Thelema]

Why do they have such laws? I think my personal safety and potential life is more important than obeying a bike law. I almost got ran over once by an old lady when I was riding against traffic. I might have been hit if I were going with traffic, like you're supposed to. Once a bike rider yelled at me because I was going against traffic on a dangerous ass road as he rode past me. If I'm going to get hit, I want the chance to dive in to a ditch to miss it. I felt horrible at the time he yelled at me, but now I'd probably turn around and chase him a little, hopefully scare him.

I think with age and life experience, you learn what to take and what to get mad at and not take. I still get a little freaked out about little things, but big full blown yelling at doesn't bother me as much. I worry more about what's wrong with the other person more than what is wrong with me.

 

[Danfalc]

ok, I know this is pretty childish, but does anyone else still really hate being told off?! I know I'm an adult and should be able to deal with this stuff by now but I just hate it when people get angry at me.

I don't think its childish,Like you say you are an adult now and you deserve a bit more respect than someone shouting at you like your a little kid.A lot of people imo who do the shouting are imo,either just idiots who want to bully someone,or people who dont really know how to deal with a situation and resort to throwing a tantrum like a little kid themselves.

I think in a way you do deal with it better than them!

 

[Queen_Of_Pain]

ok, I know this is pretty childish, but does anyone else still really hate being told off?! I know I'm an adult and should be able to deal with this stuff by now but I just hate it when people get angry at me.

Some random old man just had a massive go at me for cycling on the pavement! He was fuming! He goes "this isn't a bl***y cycle path, get on the road!". Usually if I know I'm in the right I can just ignore people like this but annoyingly I know he was right in this instance. It's illegal to cycle on the paths. I do it just cause it's so much safer and I end up holding up tons of traffic on the roads otherwise and make all the drivers angry.

argh, I wish it didn't bother me so much, but to be honest I'm dreading bumping into that guy again now.

how do you guys deal with being told off? anyone get told off a lot? I can usually rise above it if I feel that I'm in the right, but it's just those times when I'm either unsure or definitely in the wrong that it hits me a lot harder and I start feeling a lot more guilty.

I loathe being "told off", always have.
I was never a nasty child, just opinionated and somewhat quiet. And whenever I did something wrong at school, and some pathetic teacher decided to scream at me, I always wanted to say "If you'd just asked me not to do something one time, I would have listened" mostly because whatever I did/do wrong was/is simply out of confusion rather than spite. But I guess thats having too much of an opinion.

Nowadays if someone trys to "tell me off" I lash out. Bad habit I know but it's so f*****g frustrating. Although it is nice to notice that the person who is doing all the "telling off" doesn't like to be spoken back to in the way they speak to others. Haha.
I envy your self control btw lol.

 

[zlench]

I just tend to ignore it I ain't any good at being told off and tell where to go in head.

 

[mikestar]

Some random old man just had a massive go at me for cycling on the pavement! He was fuming! He goes "this isn't a bl***y cycle path, get on the road!". Usually if I know I'm in the right I can just ignore people like this but annoyingly I know he was right in this instance. It's illegal to cycle on the paths. I do it just cause it's so much safer and I end up holding up tons of traffic on the roads otherwise and make all the drivers angry.
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People moan when bikes r on the road,then moan when there on paths. Cycling on the path is alot easier for traffic to pass and safer for you. As far as Im aware it's not illegal and I will carry on doing it.

I dont like being told off as I dont know what to say back. I can argue back sometimes but usually fail and start laughing to try and calm the situation..it dousnt help the other person tho ::

 

[Rodox]

Nowadays if someone trys to "tell me off" I lash out. Bad habit I know but it's so f*****g frustrating. Although it is nice to notice that the person who is doing all the "telling off" doesn't like to be spoken back to in the way they speak to others. Haha.
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Yes I get a kick out of that too,those kind of people always love to put others down when they get the chance,because they think they are superior to you somehow,but when its done to them.....

 

[stand_up]

I think it's not a "childish" thing. We are all adults and so we have self-respect and pride.

Even if the old man is right about the issue,... the way he approached you about it is wrong. He could have informed you about riding on the footpath in a more respectful tone, diplomatic tone, friendly and non pride-challenging tone, or even introduced himself before raising the issue, e.g. Hey buddy, excuse me, how you going all right? Thats good. Sorry my friend I don't mean to be _____ but _____yeah so I just thought I'd tell you thats all. Have a nice day.

 

[worrywort]

man, I love posting on this site, cause I always get amazing responses! You guys are all absolutely right! I feel much better now! thanks!

yea if he'd had just asked me nicely, I would have been happy to oblige! Cause he's probably right, through some of the quieter villages it's safer for pedestrians if I ride on the road, but on some of the busier roads I'm gonna stick to riding on the pavement, or at least move onto the pavement if I'm holding up traffic. Because yea, the health and safety rules, especially in England, are a bit ridiculous at times, so I'm gonna do things the my own way!

plus I've never heard of a cyclist being arrested for riding on the pavement, so i think i'll take my chances!

 

[Lea]

To me happened something similar, I was going over the bridge on my bike but the surface of the road isn´t smooth there (cobbles) and the traffic is very busy with almost no space for bicycles. So I went on the pavement, I passed one old lady with children which was pointing at me that I should get on the road. I was thinking - great, I can be sent to death, main thing you and your children stay safe.

But still, occurences like this don´t affect me much because it´s strange people whom I never meet again, I just forget it and don´t think about it anymore. Worse is, if you have abusers at home (or at work).