Hi,
I'm new here. It is really nice to see how you support each other!
I have AvPD, I'm 24 years old and I am in love. That's not a good combination. The situation has always been like this: when I like a guy I always be as far away from him as possible. But now there is a really sweet person near me (I'm not going to explain the situation I'm a bit paranoia, maybe he reads this, most likely not but still...). I can talk to him, no I have to, because the situation is like that. It is the first time someone I really like is that close to me. And offcourse you know all the symptoms... not looking in is eyes, don't say much cause I want him away from me... etc. So nothing happens, paradoxical I don't like that either. But now it has come to a crucial moment. He can't be 'close' to me anymore! This means I don't see him anymore. Unless I go to a place I know he sometimes goes out. Which is damn scary. All those social rules in some pub I can't deal with.
So here's the thing: can I tell him that I want to keep seeing him? or say that I really like him and will miss him? or something like that.
I asked some friends and they say to me: no, no, no you can't do that. you just have to go to that place where he goes out and talk to him there! but that's no option for me. they just don't understand that in this way I never get a boyfriend. Because I don't dare to flirt!
Ohh I want to tell him I love him out of the blue (by phone, mail??)
Tell me I can! Cause that's the only option.
I'm new here. It is really nice to see how you support each other!
I have AvPD, I'm 24 years old and I am in love. That's not a good combination. The situation has always been like this: when I like a guy I always be as far away from him as possible. But now there is a really sweet person near me (I'm not going to explain the situation I'm a bit paranoia, maybe he reads this, most likely not but still...). I can talk to him, no I have to, because the situation is like that. It is the first time someone I really like is that close to me. And offcourse you know all the symptoms... not looking in is eyes, don't say much cause I want him away from me... etc. So nothing happens, paradoxical I don't like that either. But now it has come to a crucial moment. He can't be 'close' to me anymore! This means I don't see him anymore. Unless I go to a place I know he sometimes goes out. Which is damn scary. All those social rules in some pub I can't deal with.
So here's the thing: can I tell him that I want to keep seeing him? or say that I really like him and will miss him? or something like that.
I asked some friends and they say to me: no, no, no you can't do that. you just have to go to that place where he goes out and talk to him there! but that's no option for me. they just don't understand that in this way I never get a boyfriend. Because I don't dare to flirt!
Ohh I want to tell him I love him out of the blue (by phone, mail??)
Tell me I can! Cause that's the only option.
: Not that I will tell him bluntly in his face with all his friends around. But I shouldn't be ashamed for liking him.