I am socially needy..

[no1]

I don't feel too independent. I feel like I need friends, and I need a relationship with a female, or at least some kind of close friends, be that male and female.

I feel like I need someone to guide me or help me, give me advice, that for some should be common knowledge.

I am like socially immature.

This makes me really shy also. I feel a need to be approved first before I do anything that has to do with me infringing in others space in public.

In school, I'm afraid to ask questions. As a male I assume I am expected to be very mature and experienced in things that are supposed to be "common knowledge/sense".

Things like finances, managing finances.. things like knowing how to have fun, or socialize, and communicate.

Things like how to just, DO things, legally, ie through the system. Or through any structure of society. How to get things through being social. How to be social. How to be formal. How to work with this society the way it's built up and the way things work.

I feel like.. I'm from another planet where all we did in that planet was did what we had to, but there was no "correct" way to do things. Now,I have to be formal. Professional. Hell I'm still like a ****ing child.

But I'm afraid to ask questions, because I'm 22, and I'll look like a weirdo, or a low life if I did ask such stupid questions.

f*ck it sucks.

I'm afraid to do things like interact with workers, or authorities, because I feel ignorant, or lost.

 

[philly2bits]

your not the only one. I'd say most people on this site have the same problems as you. We all know how much all this stuff wrong with us sucks and we try to help each other.

 

[Drummr]

I'm the exact same way, I'm going to be 18 this month but I feel like a 14 year old mentally. I've seen 12 year olds that are more independent than me. What's nice though is my (only) friend is just as immature as me, and the same age. It feels like that is the only person I can be myself around because they are the same way. The rest of the world...? not so much....

 

[no1]

I know how you feel. I've been that way for a long time. What I've done though, is pretty much all you can do. Just do the things you're not use to, and through mistakes comes experience and knowledge. I have had so many instances where I have had the look of "You don't know that?" And I should have by my age, yes... but I didn't. And believe me, it was hard to stomach what others would think of my "immaturity" at times. For whatever reason I was lacking in so much life experience that others have acquired long before me. I have my beliefs why, but that's in the past.

Do something today, like you knew you were dying tomorrow. Really imagine that today's your last day here, and tomorrow will never come. Go out and see if you can do something that you wouldn't normally do. It's worked for me at times, so hopefully you can gain some type of experience through that.

I would go to the strip club. I dont want to go by myself though because I'll seem like a loser.

actually, a strip club would probably not be on my mind. I could also spend it with loved ones. whatever that means.

Actually, I wouldn't be too productive if I thought that it was my last day to live. I'd take more risks but that could also mean more trouble. I would spend my day not focusing on my future and instead focusing on temporal pleasures.