cowboyup
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I had a 60 minute talk with the friend who moved to NY. For the first time, I heard fear and doubt in his voice. I feel bad for the guy. He has supportive parents, friends, yet he is filled with doubt and fear - his voice was shaky - and for the first time, I could relate.
He asked for my advice and what I thought of a situation he suddenly found himself in, I replied honestly what I thought and then all of a sudden the 'words of wisdom' (or some crazy sh*!) started spewing from my mouth. Before I knew it, we had been talking for an hour straight and at the end, he said 'thank you' and that our talk helped him calm down and was better able to focus on his situation to figure things out without freaking out.
OK, so I am not the usual 'very talkative' person and it has been YEARS since I actually dispensed quality advice or even my real opinion. But ya know what? It felt good. I don't know where it came from but I just began to talk to him openly and honestly.
My mom and I used to have an online panic/anxiety/depression forum we ran back in the late 90's - early 2003. Glad I had that experience to know what to say, uh I guess?:thinking:
I feel good. I was a bit choked up to hear my friend talk but at the same point I could relate to an extent to what he was going through...maybe that is the reason I was helpful.
At any rate, it made me feel good. It also gave me a whole new perspective on my friend. I mean, he is confident, outgoing, intelligent, a real 'go-getter' yet today he felt well, human. I am glad we talked. I have new found respect and/or empathy (?) for him. Yes, that sounds cheesy and dorky but for some reason I do.
hmm...life really is humbling for everyone. And it goes to show you that what you perceive about others is sometimes not exactly what is on the inside. What a person sees outwardly, is not what is always seen internally.
I feel better about myself and I feel confident that my friend will get through his problem OK. He admitted he missed this city and that he didn't appreciate how good he had it here until it was gone. I told him that was his first lesson. He agreed.
I think 2013 is looking pretty good :bigsmile:
Happy New Year everyone :bigsmile:
He asked for my advice and what I thought of a situation he suddenly found himself in, I replied honestly what I thought and then all of a sudden the 'words of wisdom' (or some crazy sh*!) started spewing from my mouth. Before I knew it, we had been talking for an hour straight and at the end, he said 'thank you' and that our talk helped him calm down and was better able to focus on his situation to figure things out without freaking out.
OK, so I am not the usual 'very talkative' person and it has been YEARS since I actually dispensed quality advice or even my real opinion. But ya know what? It felt good. I don't know where it came from but I just began to talk to him openly and honestly.
My mom and I used to have an online panic/anxiety/depression forum we ran back in the late 90's - early 2003. Glad I had that experience to know what to say, uh I guess?:thinking:
I feel good. I was a bit choked up to hear my friend talk but at the same point I could relate to an extent to what he was going through...maybe that is the reason I was helpful.
At any rate, it made me feel good. It also gave me a whole new perspective on my friend. I mean, he is confident, outgoing, intelligent, a real 'go-getter' yet today he felt well, human. I am glad we talked. I have new found respect and/or empathy (?) for him. Yes, that sounds cheesy and dorky but for some reason I do.
hmm...life really is humbling for everyone. And it goes to show you that what you perceive about others is sometimes not exactly what is on the inside. What a person sees outwardly, is not what is always seen internally.
I feel better about myself and I feel confident that my friend will get through his problem OK. He admitted he missed this city and that he didn't appreciate how good he had it here until it was gone. I told him that was his first lesson. He agreed.
I think 2013 is looking pretty good :bigsmile:
Happy New Year everyone :bigsmile:
