How to avoid avoiding...

[lilmutegirl]

I am currently skipping a class that I missed last week due to work (so this makes my second absence). The only reason I'm skipping this time is because I didn't get the homework done and it makes me really anxious to go to class unprepared (even though it is not expected of me to talk during this class). If I miss one more time, my grade will be lowered one letter. I will not get credit for the homework that was due last week or this week. I also just realized I missed another assignment 2 weeks ago. We have our midterm next week, so I'm not going to get the review sheet.
Normally, I'm fine going to this class, but I could see this snowballing (as it has in the past in similar situations). I am not very anxious right now (because I'm not in the middle of the anxiety-producing situation). I'm debating what, if anything, to say to the instructor, and how to proceed. I believe I can pass the class okay still, but will need to be more diligent.
Once I make up my mind that I'm going to avoid something, it's hard to change it back. Even if avoiding is worse than just facing it head-on. Anyone else have this problem?

 

[Sial Axetder]

I have been there. I'm a natural avoidant:kickingmyself:

Really the best advice is to just get to it.

If it helps get angry with yourself and stand up and go! Don't think too much about what if's because that will lead into an avoidant circle. Which, ultimately, you will avoid what you know you want and should do.

Example: I fear phones :question: if I begin to think about calling the person I need to I won't call them. If I know I have to and just do it I will do it.