The thing with social phobia is, you have to really really WANT to get better. You have to get to the point where you want nothing more than to break out of your cage of fear. Being depressed is the easy option, it is habit and you have your coping mechanisms to avoid embarrassment. It takes a lot of work to start getting better, and not everybody is ready for that. And thats OK too, but I wish I could help them.
I empathize with almost everything that is said, because I have been there, but I wish there was more a focus on getting better, and advice was taken seriously instead of people saying "Nope, cant do it, I am beyond help"
And I wish I could provide proof that you can get better, I wish I could post some kindof snapshot of me at my worst (I had an extreme case for a long time), and how I am doing now. People don't want to believe you can get better because then they have to start taking responsibility for doing all that is necessary to overcome SA and face their worst fears.
The animosity towards people who are doing better than others is not cool, but I think I know where it is coming from...
I am kindof a newbie, joined to offer help... not sure if it is appreciated or not
But I guess we should keep trying in order to provide hope and balance out the negativity
And I know that realizing I was not alone in my SA was one of the first steps to me getting better.. so in that aspect this board is good.
This board is good for me to recognize fears I have not identified yet. When you have thought the same way for your life, sometimes you need a different perspective to identify your remaining, hidden fears. Fear works in strange and subtle ways sometimes.
I am rambling lol, shutup Becca, geez. If I dont post now, next time I look this will be twice as long