How good are your social skills?
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Walk
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willows said:
Yeah I've been there too. After a series of flimsy small talk conversations, I'm just waiting for someone to say "hey, come to my get together this weekend"... just doesn't happen. Crap!
Oh well.
I'm pretty sure that NOT talking is only going to make it worse.
And oh shit, speech class is coming up in a few weeks 8O
kayelle
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When I was a kid I was ridiculously shy, and I used to hate school so much that I would ring home every day demanding to be collected because I felt sick. Then when I got older I was way more social, and I actually really enjoyed being around groups of people. But I was just putting on a facade of being loud and hyper and stuff, and I always deep down felt really insecure and way inferior to everyone else, and that's one of the reasons my SA developed.
But now that I don't have as many friends and I'm scared of being around people I realise that I AM a social person, that I like knowing a lot of people and spending time with friends, it's just that before I wasn't being myself at all, not one bit. But now being around people freaks me out! And yet I'm desperately lonely for friends! Gah!
Stoopid SA :lol:
But now that I don't have as many friends and I'm scared of being around people I realise that I AM a social person, that I like knowing a lot of people and spending time with friends, it's just that before I wasn't being myself at all, not one bit. But now being around people freaks me out! And yet I'm desperately lonely for friends! Gah!
Stoopid SA :lol:
enmascarado
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I don't know that I have any social skills. Even around my immediate family, I barely say anything at all. The only difference between being with them and others is that I don't get nervous. My mind is still blank, and I usually feel left out because I can't think of anything to say.
halcyon
Active member
I've been thinking about this a lot today. I guess it's the season. My social skills are seriously lacking. Especially the talking bit and keeping a conversation going. I'm so focused on what people think of me, and how nervous I am that I can hardly keep up w/ a conversation. If people start to laugh, then I'll laugh even if I wasn't quick enough to hear the joke.
I am so immature and behind in the social skills department it's not funny. It's like I don't have them at all, and they are a foreign language I have to learn.
Of course, I haven't even tried until very recently so I suppose I should give myself a break. Instead of forcing myself to talk I have been practicing making eye contact, smiling and small things like that this week. I never have much to say, and my voice is quiet and sounds nervous.
I'm ok w/ my immediate family if I'm not depressed. I got out of going to my grandparents house today for xmas dinner cause I felt so anxious. There was a holiday lunch at work today I felt I had to put an appearance in. I can't handle two social gatherings in one day! That's nuts. I was wrecked. I find socializing baffling and exhausting. Recently, I have made some small progress. I just get overwhelmed.
I am so immature and behind in the social skills department it's not funny. It's like I don't have them at all, and they are a foreign language I have to learn.
Of course, I haven't even tried until very recently so I suppose I should give myself a break. Instead of forcing myself to talk I have been practicing making eye contact, smiling and small things like that this week. I never have much to say, and my voice is quiet and sounds nervous.
I'm ok w/ my immediate family if I'm not depressed. I got out of going to my grandparents house today for xmas dinner cause I felt so anxious. There was a holiday lunch at work today I felt I had to put an appearance in. I can't handle two social gatherings in one day! That's nuts. I was wrecked. I find socializing baffling and exhausting. Recently, I have made some small progress. I just get overwhelmed.
faithnomore
Banned
My communication is good, i just dont feel comfortable having to meet new people. Its really hard, because people are very quick to judge.
Because i'm a good speaker, can be quite loud, but am also anxious, it could seem as if i'm a jerk. lol
Because i'm a good speaker, can be quite loud, but am also anxious, it could seem as if i'm a jerk. lol
faithnomore
Banned
Walk said:
My problem is that i actualy do get invited to stuff like that. And i really dont want to go, and its REALLY awkward telling these people i dont like clubs/parties etc.
SilentStranger
Well-known member
Very Bad! I simply don't know how to relate or talk. Most of the time I talk, it feels like I butted in at an inappropriate time or totally inaapropriate.
And to complicte things forgetfullness gets worse when in social or stressful situations.
I probably come accross as immature and posibally a bit dumb.
This is one of the reasons I cannot improve, or atleast the improvement is slow. Even if I am feeling less anxious, I just don't have the social skills to go and make friends, look for potential partners or do my work properly!
These are skills normal people would have learnt over a lifetime. I just feel I am always behind.
-SS
And to complicte things forgetfullness gets worse when in social or stressful situations.
I probably come accross as immature and posibally a bit dumb.
This is one of the reasons I cannot improve, or atleast the improvement is slow. Even if I am feeling less anxious, I just don't have the social skills to go and make friends, look for potential partners or do my work properly!
These are skills normal people would have learnt over a lifetime. I just feel I am always behind.
-SS
ventriloone
Well-known member
i just have nothing to say
unwantedoutcast
Active member
mine are shite
getbornagain
Well-known member
Sharp as hell. When I don't think about fucking up and I'm my normal self I can entertain... problem is, every once in a while, the OCD gives me the idea I'm fucking up which makes me fuck up. I'm praying this problem can be corrected.