Thanks for the answers,no I really want to say no, but it didnt came to that time yet,about the visa,I didnt tell anyone and I wont,but as I said,its my normal reaction because I dont really dont know her that well,as for her story I think its true because she wasnt the one who told me it was an acquaintance not really close to her,and yes in the past I got a lot of **** because I turned down girls,if you are a guy you have to be promiscuous you cant turn down opportunities to be,people started gossiping about me,it got bigger and bigger then I left,so Ithought I would get some opinions on how to do it on this forum,since I am pretty sure a lot of guys here went through this as well.