How do you make friends?
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megalon
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I wish I knew the answer to this question too. I can't think of one single time that I was able to initiate a conversation with someone for the purpose of gaining a friend or a girlfriend, not online or off. I always talk myself out of it because I feel like I don't deserve friends. I have nothing to offer anyone.
WeirdyMcGee
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Friends can only do so much.
I think the only time I was able to make friends was when I was in school... then you're working on group assignments with people and such-- so you're bound to get to know people.
I guess if you're in school or working with people around your own age or with similar interests; you just have to talk to them and make effort to become a friend.
Join classes at a community center or a local college for things you like, then you'll have something in common with the other people there already: you all like whatever you're in the class for. (hopefully. What's the use in joining a class for something you don't like?)
I have one friend at the moment and I really only know him online. We've known eachother for 6(? more, I think...) years and get along very well.
Meeting in person and feeling the same way will prove to be a test of nerves though... you can only hope that people are the same in person as they are online.
I think the only time I was able to make friends was when I was in school... then you're working on group assignments with people and such-- so you're bound to get to know people.
I guess if you're in school or working with people around your own age or with similar interests; you just have to talk to them and make effort to become a friend.
Join classes at a community center or a local college for things you like, then you'll have something in common with the other people there already: you all like whatever you're in the class for. (hopefully. What's the use in joining a class for something you don't like?)
I have one friend at the moment and I really only know him online. We've known eachother for 6(? more, I think...) years and get along very well.
Meeting in person and feeling the same way will prove to be a test of nerves though... you can only hope that people are the same in person as they are online.
T T T
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I'm still in school cause i'm 16, though i'm on study leave at the moment. I still managed to make only a few 'friends'. Nevertheless, I do have a girlfriend, and i've been with her for over eight months now, she's my only true friend and company.
Nevertheless, even when forced to interact with people in school I did't. How arrogant would that look? I don't deserve their attention? :')
Nevertheless, even when forced to interact with people in school I did't. How arrogant would that look? I don't deserve their attention? :')
Honk
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It depends, i'd say meeting online is OK, as long as you act the same as in RL, or if you can explain diffent behavior to the other person.
Nothing wrong with being uncomfortable in public, but try to explain yourself.
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I found one of my best friends on a german forum, so it works for me, if only once.
But I still have a very hard time making friends, no matter how.
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Lostinthemusic
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Thank you, this is good advise. I've been thinking about doing something like this for some time, I just have to get out and do it. Although I do tend to still have a hard time initiating conversation. Talking about what we're doing just seems strange to me. Why talk if we're experiencing what we're talking about at that moment? Societal standards just seem so strange to me.
Shy Teen
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For me to make a friend, I'd need the perfect situation in which I'd be with all my close friends and then that aquaintance would be hanging out with us. I guess thenI could be myself and let this stranger see who I really am. That way if they talk to me again I'll know that they liked my personality and actually want to be my friend. I think that helps with the opening up and getting comfortable part. Chatting before meeting in person might help alot too.
HeadFace
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Personally, I'd want to meet them asap.
I think a lot of shy people (including me to an extent) act somewhat differently online, since you have plenty of time to think of a reply, it's not face to face, and things like that.
Magicmuffin
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I look for somebody that seems to be nice, and try talking about anything. Sometime it works, sometime it doesnt. Most of the times it is other people who come to me, yet i get like, scared, and leave. The friends I have are the one that kept talking to me even when I escaped from them. Well, i have to say that I am lucky to have found that kind of people
I would love to make new friends but atm i'm just broken in pieces... People hurted my feelings and i completely lost myself. When i'm all alone i can be myself or when i feel entirely happy. I'm working on that now, to figure out how to make friends and to feel peace within myself. I have to admit that this forums helps me alot! People respect eachother here.. maybe i'm wrong but this is how it makes me feel. There is always the thought of what would happen if i will NEVER be able to make ''real'' friends... right now i'm careless about that but maybe not on a long term..