How do I (you) deal with extreme loneliness?

[Wishmaster]

I'm tired of having zero friends. My closet friend is an online one, and I usually only see him online once a week now because he is a senior in college preparing for grad school.. I consider him my closet friend just because of how much better he knows me than everybody else. I've had to get used to not being able to talk to him almost every day, because for two years we were in very frequent communication.

Even recently I've been getting off the bus (I'm poor, not 11 years old) and thinking of something to tell him, only to remember that he won't be online lol. It felt like and still does feel like he was the only person that I could tell anything personal to, except of course on here where I have an alias lol.

I have acquaintances in real life at school and a handful of people that I met gaming online whom I talk to on a friendly level, but at the end of the day I always come home to the same room, alone. These feelings of hollowness and loneliness are eating out my substance, especially at times like right now when I have a lot of assignments to worry about instead.

When I get into dips like I am in right now I feel so unmotivated to do my homework and it makes me feel like a failure. Somehow I always manage to keep my head above the water, but this isn't a healthy way for me to live at all... Sometimes I have mental breakdowns that are almost completely unexplainable unless you have had one before also.


Also, I'm sorry for my lack of posting on other people's threads. I feel like whenever I post on SPW it's usually to make my own thread.

tl;dr: What do you do to cope with loneliness?

 

[just wanna b normal]

well i go online listen to music play games but maybe this will help --How to Overcome Social Phobia | eHow.com

 

[lonely_drummer]

whenever Im feeling extremely lonely, I just come on here and read what you amazing people have to say and it seems to fill that hole in me sometimes. Thanks guys

 

[EscapeArtist]

Yeah, what lonely drummer said. I feel lonely all day, so hence I'm here all day. It does fit kinda nicely for that gap, but of course it's no real bond.

Coping with loneliness... Music. Reading and writing. Artwork (seeing others, at galleries, or making your own). All things that can make it seem as if somebody understands you, or that somebody is listening to your feelings/thoughts.

when worst comes to worst, try not to escape through drugs or alcohol. There are healthier escapes... Says the artist of escape.

 

[Wishmaster]

Yea, I do a lot of reading and listening to music and that sort of thing. Also, I strongly agree with you EscapeArtist that drugs and alcohol aren't the answer because of what they have done to my father lol.

 

[PhantomPod]

All throughout high school I spent my time on message boards, to fill my lonliness. I had a bunch of online friends who I'd talk to everyday, but no friends in real life.

I don't go on message boards all that often now, though. I just try to keep myself busy, I guess. I even did so much cleaning around the house this weekend, just to keep myself busy. Also, I just got a new puppy, so she helps with my loneliness.

The majority of the time I am okay with being alone, because I am so used to it. I just do my thing and keep myself busy and entertained. Sometimes I do get down and start feeling lonely, though. I've been feeling especially lonely this weekend. My parents are away so I have the house to myself (which I usually like), but it's just felt so strange and lonely this weekend with no other human beings around...