Argamemnon
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Just wondering, how did people on here (who have anxiety issues) meet their current partner? Or is this too personal of a question?
How did you guys and girls meet your partner?
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Barnum
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I met her at a party at her place. We had a pretty enthusiastic talk about some common interests, and I got her to come to a party at my place a couple of weeks later. After downing a couple of beers I started talking to her, and after luring her in with my shy cuteness (or is it cute shyness?) I kissed her. We're going on four months now.
Depressed4life
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Argamemnon said:
In my parent's native land. The first day i got there i saw him in the night and i couldn't take my eyes off him. Then we started talking as friends and then one day he took me out with my older niece. That day he started grabbing my hand and we both started laughing and looking at each other lol. I used to take my hands off him and then he would grab it again...i was so happy lol. Then the next week he asked me out lol i was so embarass and i said no...then minutes later i was sitting on on top of him and then he asked me for a kiss.
Richey said:
Yeah, they must not have it that bad.
moodygoo
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on a self harm chat room 
No parties for me.
But just because someone can socialise and have less extreme anxiety doesn't mean they don't struggle with it. Sounds like these 2's partner's made most of the effort. Would you carry on trying after someone had turned you down?
No parties for me. But just because someone can socialise and have less extreme anxiety doesn't mean they don't struggle with it. Sounds like these 2's partner's made most of the effort. Would you carry on trying after someone had turned you down?
Barnum
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Actually, at the time I had a firm belief that I would die alone, and a virgin. Needless to say, it took a combination of alcohol and persistence (on her part) to get to the point of being in a relationship. I am forever grateful to her for that...Richey said:
In truth, my story should stand as an example that anything can happen if you choose to wait for it.
sabbath92002
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My wife placed an ad in the local paper's personal ads. Her ad said she likes thrash metal and I'm a headbanger. We talked over the phone lots before we actually met. This was 16 years ago before the internet and e-mail.
miss_amy
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I was at a really low point when I met my husband. I was a single mum, dumped by my violent ex and left with a 3 year old and a baby. I felt really bad and thought no one would ever like me again. Ex had told me I was disgusting and gross and I believed him. I 'd had to leave my job because of child care problems. I was basically stuck at home with no one and depressed and miserable.....then I discovered the PC! Never really used it before, it was ex's but found my way to what was freeserve chat room then (1999). Spent hours chatting to a people while kids were in bed and eventually started chatting to a nice man who lived other end of the country. We got on really well but I never thought it would go any further, he was a respectable man with a good job, but it did work out and 8 years later we are still together and have another child.
Moonie
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Shameful to say, 3/4 of the guys I had a relationship sort of occurred with the aid of alcohol. I also have a pattern going: every other guy is one that I have met online first.
BF #1: My roommate invited me to go out with her, another roommate, and a guy who lived in the dorm early one semester to a bar. By the end of the night, I had my first kiss and my first BF shortly after.
BF #2: Talked to him for a few months online. I was going out with my sister and some friends to a bar and I said he should come after work. Well, I was very drunk by the time he showed up - so of course things were not so bad then, lol. After a few sober dates, we became a couple.
BF #3: I went out to a bar with a friend. Was drunk (yet again) and met a guy there. Shortly became a couple soon after.
BF #4/Current: I have talked to him online for yrs and finally met him not too long ago in real life. After a couple dates, we became a couple.
I think the internet can actually be a good place for people with SA to meet partners. Since you have been chatting online, it gives you something to build a conversation on when you meet in person.
I also think alcohol can help (but if it's in a setting where others are drinking.) Though, this has the possibility to lead to some problems - if not controlled.
Even though my initial meetings with these guys were easy (because of booze) it gives you a chance to meet again and get to know each other better. It can be kind of awkward and scary, but it is amazing how quickly you warm up to some people.
BF #1: My roommate invited me to go out with her, another roommate, and a guy who lived in the dorm early one semester to a bar. By the end of the night, I had my first kiss and my first BF shortly after.
BF #2: Talked to him for a few months online. I was going out with my sister and some friends to a bar and I said he should come after work. Well, I was very drunk by the time he showed up - so of course things were not so bad then, lol. After a few sober dates, we became a couple.
BF #3: I went out to a bar with a friend. Was drunk (yet again) and met a guy there. Shortly became a couple soon after.
BF #4/Current: I have talked to him online for yrs and finally met him not too long ago in real life. After a couple dates, we became a couple.
I think the internet can actually be a good place for people with SA to meet partners. Since you have been chatting online, it gives you something to build a conversation on when you meet in person.
I also think alcohol can help (but if it's in a setting where others are drinking.) Though, this has the possibility to lead to some problems - if not controlled.
Even though my initial meetings with these guys were easy (because of booze) it gives you a chance to meet again and get to know each other better. It can be kind of awkward and scary, but it is amazing how quickly you warm up to some people.