How can I stop sounding critical?

[Hero]

I really want to make friends... but everyone time i try to express myself I seem to upset someone. I really hate feeling like a villain when I'm just a nice person!

My friend was asking some interesting questions like 'if you were a fruit what would you be?" and later I said that "I liked those unusual questions" and then she suddenly snapped at me. I also told someone that there were beautiful and they replied with "stopped taking the p***" , when I really meant it! It happens all the time when I try and compliment someone, they think I'm being sarcastic. Sometimes If I tease people, they take it as an insult. I feel like I'm holding back my personality in case I upset people

Its really bothering me as I feel people think I'm a horrible person when I'm really not.

 

[twiggle]

It sounds like these people are jumping on the defensive quite quickly. Perhaps its just that they have low self-esteem and don't know why anybody would be complimenting them. Some people even hate to receive compliments.
Either that, or maybe its just the tone of voice you're using. Obviously I don't know your voice, but maybe you're the type of person who thinks long and hard about what you're going to say before you say it? For example, when you give a compliment, does it come out naturally or do you sit and rehearse it in your head a little first? I find that words only really sound sincere when they're spoken naturally. When I was younger I would occasionally think too much before speaking and one person said I sounded a little fake. It's all down to personal interpretation I guess.

 

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im in the same boat, kinda. i hate being serious, so i try to be light hearted most the time and goof around with people, but they take me 100% seriously