My problem is that I can't talk to people. Not because I'm too anxious to say what I want, not because I feel my input isn't important, but because I have nothing to say. Ever. I can't hold a conversation with anyone, not even with things I'm confident about (e.g. what I study at uni) with the people on my course. I really want to improve myself, but how can I do that when I can't even start? When people offer advice, they say I should take "baby steps", by doing small things to slowly improve, but how can I do that if I can't even talk to begin with? It feels like I'm learning to walk without having legs. I need to find a starting point that I can work my way up on, and improve my social skills and self-confidence from that.
It really pisses me off how bad it is. I really try, when in a group of people I think about what I could say, and nothing ever comes to my mind. Eventually I just get anxious, then give up and get angry at myself. I just think "how can someone be so **** at conversation?" Every other shy person I've met is capable of talking when they become comfortable around others, so why can't I? If I can't improve, I'm just going to stay like this forever. I used to think it was just shyness, and that it would go away with age. I'm almost 19 now, and nothing has changed in years. I'm starting to think there's something seriously wrong with me mentally.
It really pisses me off how bad it is. I really try, when in a group of people I think about what I could say, and nothing ever comes to my mind. Eventually I just get anxious, then give up and get angry at myself. I just think "how can someone be so **** at conversation?" Every other shy person I've met is capable of talking when they become comfortable around others, so why can't I? If I can't improve, I'm just going to stay like this forever. I used to think it was just shyness, and that it would go away with age. I'm almost 19 now, and nothing has changed in years. I'm starting to think there's something seriously wrong with me mentally.