Home Life/Living situation

[veggielover]

Hey guys,
So, I'm just wondering what you guys are like in your own homes because for me, I think that your home should be the place where you feel the most comfortable, but for me its not entirely the case. I live with both my parents and my older brother (he's 5 years older...not such a big difference now that I'm older..19). Here's the thing though. Ok, I'm fine living with my parents. They bug me sometimes, especially my mom because she loves to nag at me about every little thing possible......but for now I can stand it. My dad's cool, I don't really have a problem with him. I can talk to my parents anytime, but not on a deep, personal level. I feel like I have a lack of someone who I can look up to..
And now, my brother. So, as I said, he's 24 and i'm 19. We go to the same community college in our town. I feel like we are so so alike, but for some reason we are not close at all, and I know that we can be close, but neither one of us has taken the step to do so. So whenever it's just him and I at home, it feels awkward . We don't say anything to each other, but "Hey"...or ask where mom and dad are...or simple stuff like that.
This brings me anxiety. Knowing that there's so much potential in a friendship between my brother and I but nothing is happening. And i feel like if something doesn't happen now, then we will never be close.
Basically, I just want to be happy and ok with the fact that we live together, but we're not good friends...
Are you guys close with your family for those of you who live with family??
By the way, I'm dying to be out and live on my own...I wish I did...but of course that's not possible because I don't have enough money!!

Thank you for reading
I would love annny feed back!

 

[BlackKids]

I'm extremely close to my family. I live on my own but spend quite abit of time at my parents house. I love my family but its important for me to have my own space. I need to feel independent or they would drive me crackers.

I'm close with my brother. I'd say just try and find common ground. We'd be as different as we are similar.

 

[Noca]

I live with my parents in my own fair sized room. I got tv's computers, and even my own fridge in my room Really I couldn't ask for much more.

 

[tth]

I live with my family but it seems like we have opposite problems. Im extremely close with my siblings but not with my parents. Its kinda weird but thats my situation. Like you, I am dying to live on my own. I saved enough money and working part time but am afriad to tell my parents. They would get mad for sure and wont let me move back home if I wanted to.

 

[Rodney]

I love being at home. I feel so comfortable at home and can be myself all the time except on weekends when my parents have friends over. I fear this will change though within the next few years when I'm in my 20s and feel as if I should be out of the house (hopefully I will). Anyways I'm pretty close with my mom. My dad and I have our little fights once in awhile but I still love him. As for my sister, who is 3 years older than me (21), we our extremely close and I can tell her anything. We are alike in so many ways its ridiculous but I think its because we are made from the two same people lol.

The advice I would give you would be to try and make a relationship with your brother if you think you guys are alike. If you don't try you will surely regret it. My suggestion to better your relationship with him would be to ask him how his day at school was and maybe tell him a little about your day. Just try to make small talk at first and like any new friendship the talking will hopefully advance into more than small talk as time progresses. Don't expect it to happen at once. Another suggestion, this one is a bit bolder but it may work for you, is to ask him if he'd like to go to the theatres, preferably a movie he would probably be into, no chick flicks lol. This way you are spending time together but its not awkward because your just watching a movie and not talking.

Anyways, best of luck to you, sorry this is soooo long.

 

[SnowWolf]

I moved out when I was 19 I think, just couldn't live under the same roof as my nagging mother anymore though she's the only family I have. I'm 24 now and I'm very thankful to live in Australia because although my SA gets so bad that I can't hold a job, the welfare system allowed me to move out of home to Sydney with no other financial support, and I've always had enough to get by. In most other countries I'd probably still be stuck at home.

 

[this_portrait]

During the school months, I live on campus in a school-owned apartment with a roommate. Any other time, I live at home almost two hours away with my parents and live-in cousin (who will be moving out soon, hopefully).

Last year, I wasn't as fond of living in a dorm as I am now, mainly because I didn't get along too well with my roommate from that year. I just wanted to get the hell out of there and go back home.

Once I got home, though, it got to the point where I got fed up being there, too. It seemed as if all I did was fight with my family, especially my dad and cousin. It wasn't even June, and I wanted out of there.

Now that it's a new year and I'm living in a new place with a new roommate, I feel much more at peace. I find that I'm not getting as pissed off as I would get back at home over the summer, and I'm actually getting along with my roommate waaay more than with the one from last year.

I'm dreading the times when I actually have to go home, because my family just seems to anger me and make my irritability skyrocket whenever I'm around them. Hopefully my cousin will move out in November like she says she will, because maybe if that happens, I won't be as irritable and angry whenever I go home.

 

[Rainbows18]

I'm not close to my family at all. I used to be, but since I starting developing SA I've almost completely isolated myself from everyone. Right now I live with my dad, he's the only one I'm really close to. I was living with my mom and step-dad, but they weren't very understanding or patient about my SA, mostly it was my step-dad who started having an attitude with me because I didn't have a job right after I graduated, and wasn't going to college. My brother and I used to be close, but we've barely spoken to each other for 5 years, I feel like I barely know him, and feel awkward around him just like I do around my whole family and everyone else.

 

[Acme]

I never was close with my parents or sister. My parents are basically clueless about this society and didn't teach me much, and a lot of what they did teach me was wrong, which I had to work to unlearn just to get back to zero. Oh well, it's the cards you're dealt. If it came down to it, I would probably live on the street than live with my parents again. Not that my parents are bad people, I just wouldn't be able to go back to where I was on a permanent basis.