holy cow, I'm all confused!

[cowboyup]

I wish I could figure out men! ... BOYS

So, I ventured out a couple times this week, and went to the movies with a guy that I've known for about 4 years ...there's a 12 year difference in age and I am beginning to see his "juvenile" side I guess.

Yup this makes me a cougar

anyhow, this guy said he MIGHT have a girlfriend and by that he means he has to "talk" to her about him seeing other women while they date --apparently if she's going to be jealous that he goes out with other women, he won't have that... hmm

I'm not an expert, but wouldn't a girl (or guy for that matter) be jealous or feel inadequate or something if one said that they might go to movies or hang out with the opposite sex (as opposed to being with significant other)? I'd feel weird if I were dating some guy and he said he was going to keep seeing another girl - am I wrong here? am I missing the boat?

...and mind you, most people he is friends with are girls and I am sure it's not just casual....
I knew I should stay to myself instead of trying this friend thing! Argh!

 

[Mickery]

Some people have "alternative" relationships where they're both happy for the other to see people. I'm sure most would be jealous, but that doesn't mean much when you don't know who they are and what the arrangement is. Besides, lots of people have a more casual lead-in to a relationship before they make a mutual decision to be exclusive to each other and they're not to that point yet. Or I don't know, something else.

It's not clear whether it bothers you or you're worried that it bothers her... or him...? If you're not happy about it then say or do something, if it's their relationship that's the problem then it's not really up to you.

 

[cowboyup]

Mickery - I'm not worried about it; he told me that is how/why 2 of his realtionships ended. I failed to mention that important piece-

he said the first one, he hid/failed to mention he was seeing other women and that ended - I understand why.
The second one, he and gf agreed to open realtionship,to see others, then the gf changed mind and said it was not ok w/her and they broke up.


To make it clear, I guess I wonder why he'd keep doing that if its not working for him LOL

 

[Mickery]

Perhaps it is working and he prefers multiple/frequent/concurrent relationships.

 

[cowboyup]

yup, I suppose something is working! lol
Not my "job" nor any of my business to wonder about it!

but I did wonder.....